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Q: My husband and I are lucky—like that couple in their 70s you wrote about—to have a satisfying sex life after 23 years together. Still, to be honest, there are times when we’re just going through the motions. I guess it’s natural that it isn’t as exciting as it was that first year or so. Maybe we just have to accept it. Or is there anything we can do? (We do have date nights and try to experiment with new things.)—Ho-Humming Somewhat

A: It’s like buying your dream house—and then living in it for 12 years. You still love it, but you don’t jump up and down and yell “Woo-hoo! We live here!” the 10,044th time you walk through your door. The good news is, there’s a way to perk up the sexual excitement level in a long-term relationship, and it doesn’t involve attending parties where they have a bowl of keys at the door. You just need to get back to really being there while you’re having sex. This means truly feeling—that is, really being present for—the moment-by-moment sensations, like you did the very first time you got together. You know, back before you started (let’s be honest) sexual multitasking—running through your to-do list while getting it on.

Clinical psychologist Lori Brotto, who researches female sexual desire and arousal issues, finds that a practice called “mindfulness”—with Eastern spiritual origins—seems to be “an effective way of re-routing one’s focus . . . on to the sensations that are unfolding in the moment.” Mindfulness involves bringing your attention to the immediate moment. This isn’t to say you have to meditate to have better sex. However, one of the mindfulness meditation techniques involves scanning your body with your mind, focusing your attention on individual parts, and observing the sensations in them in that moment. That’s key. So, for example, point your attention at your breathing, at the points of skin-to-skin contact between you and your husband. Notice the temperature of your skin. Hot? Cool? Do you feel tiny beads of sweat?

Brotto writes in Better Sex Through Mindfulness that in her research, “when the women learn to be right where they are with a partner, rather than in the myriad other places that their mind escapes to during sex, they start to experience sexual contact with their partner in a way that perhaps they had not experienced for months, years, or decades.” In other words, yes, there’s still hope to hear animalistic screaming in your bedroom again—and not just when your husband pulls on the oven mitts and holds the cat down so you can clip her toenails without losing an eye.

Q: I’m a 35-year-old guy. My fiancée broke up with me a year ago. I was devastated. We don’t have any contact now, but I still love her. I haven’t been on one date since our breakup, and I reminisce about her constantly. My guy friends are, like, “Move on, dude. Get a life!” But honestly, that’s not that helpful. What is the best way to get over an ex, besides time?—Stuck

A: Your buddies surely mean well in taking the “just say the magic words!” approach—“Get over it! Lotta fish in the sea, man!”—but you’re trying to recover from a breakup, not summon a genie. Lingering feelings of love for your fiancée are the problem.

As for a solution, research by cognitive psychologist Sandra J. E. Langeslag suggests you can decrease those feelings through “negative reappraisal” of your ex-partner—basically looking back and trying to see all the “bad” in her. For example, focus on her annoying habits and rude and stupid things she said and did. When Langeslag’s research participants mentally trashed their ex-partner, it did diminish the love they felt for their ex. Yay! However, there was a side effect: all of this negative thinking—not surprisingly—made participants feel pretty bummed out. But helpfully, Langeslag came around with a second strategy that helped them block out the feel-bad: distraction, like answering questions “about positive things unrelated to the breakup or the partner (e.g., What is your favorite food? Why?).”

Probably an even better source of distraction is turning to what Langeslag calls a “secondary task” (like playing a video game). Keep up the negativity and the distracting secondary tasks, and before long you should find yourself ready for a level-three distraction: losing yourself in a forest of Tinder hussies.

Copyright 2018 Amy Alkon. All rights reserved. Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon at 171 Pier Ave. #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email Ad*******@ao*.com. @amyalkon on Twitter. Weekly radio show, blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon.

 

Movie Times

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Ant-Man and the Wasp (PG-13) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 12:40, 3:40, 7, 9:55 Northgate: Fri-Wed 10, 1, 4, 7, 10 Playhouse: Fri-Sat 12:45, 3:45, 6:45, 9:30; Sun-Wed 12:45, 3:45, 6:45 Rowland: 10:30, 1:30, 4:30, 7:30, 10:30

Bolshoi Ballet: Swan Lake (PG) Regency: Mon 7

The Catcher Was a Spy (R) Lark: Sat 4:40; Mon 4:20; Tue 12:30, 8:40; Wed 10:20am; Thu 6:50

Deconstructing The Beatles: Birth of The Beatles (Not Rated) Rafael: Thu 7:30

Disney’s Newsies: The Broadway Musical! (PG) Northgate: Thu 7

Don’t Worry, He Won’t Get Far on Foot (R) Rafael: Fri-Sun 1, 3:30, 6, 8:30; Mon-Thu 3:30, 6, 8:30

Equalizer 2 (R) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 1:05, 3:55, 6:55, 9:50 Northgate: Fri-Wed 9:55, 11, 12:45, 1:50, 3:35, 4:40, 6:25, 7:30, 9:20, 10:20 Rowland: 10:20, 1:20, 4:20, 7:20, 10:20

The First Purge (R) Northgate: Fri-Mon, Wed 12:10, 2:40, 5:10, 7:40, 10:10; Tue 2:40, 5:10, 7:40, 10:10 Rowland: 9:40, 12:10, 2:40, 5:10, 7:40, 10:10

First Reformed (R) Lark: Fri 4:30; Sat 10:20am; Sun 8:45; Mon 6:30; Tue 2:30; Thu 12:45

The Gardener (Not Rated) Rafael: Fri-Sat 1:15

Hearts Beat Loud (PG-13) Lark: Fri 2:20; Sat 12:30; Sun 6:45; Mon 10:20; Tue 4:40; Wed 1:50

Hereditary (R) Lark: Fri-Sat 9; Thu 10:20am

Hermitage Revealed (Not Rated) Lark: Wed 6:15

Hotel Transylvania 3: Summer Vacation (PG-13) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 12, 2:25, 4:55, 7:20, 9:40 Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:05, 11:15, 12:35, 1:55, 3:10, 4:35, 5:45, 7:15, 8:20, 9:45 Playhouse: Fri-Sat 12:15, 2:45, 5, 7:30, 9:45; Sun-Wed 12:15, 2:45, 5, 7:30 Rowland: 9:50, 12:20, 2:50, 5:20, 7:50, 10:30

Incredibles 2 (PG) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 1, 3:50, 6:40, 9:30 Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:20, 1:20, 4:20, 7:20, 10:20 Rowland: 10:10, 1:10, 4:10, 7:10, 10:10

Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:25, 1:25, 4:25, 7:25, 10:25 Rowland: 10, 1, 4, 7, 10

Leave No Trace (PG) Regency: Fri-Sat 11:30, 12:50, 2:10, 3:30, 5, 6:10, 7:40, 9, 10:20; Sun 11:30, 2:10, 5, 6:10, 7:40; Mon-Wed 11:30, 12:50, 2:10, 3:30, 5, 7:40; Thu 11:30, 12:50, 2:10, 3:30, 5, 6:10, 7:40

Macbeth (Not Rated) Rafael: Sun noon

Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again (PG-13) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 1:25, 4:05, 6:45, 9:25 Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:30, 11:35, 1:10, 2:15, 3:50, 5, 6:30, 7:45, 9:15, 10:30 Rowland: 9:20, 12, 2:40, 5:20, 8, 10:40 Sequoia: Fri-Sat 1:45, 4:20, 7, 9:40; Sun-Wed 1:45, 4:20, 7; Thu 1:45, 4:20

Maquia: Where the Promised Flower Blooms (PG-13) Lark: Sun 4:20

Mission: Impossible—Fallout (PG-13) Cinema: Thu 10:25; 3D showtime at 7 Fairfax: Thu 7 Northgate: Thu 7, 10:20; 3D showtime at 8:10 Playhouse: Thu 4, 7 Rowland: Thu 7, 10:20; 3D showtimes at 7:30, 10:50

Mountain (Not Rated) Lark: Fri 10:20am; Sun 2:40; Mon 2:30; Wed 12:15, 8:15; Thu 5:10

Ocean’s 8 (PG-13) Lark: Fri noon; Sat 6:45; Mon 8:50; Tue 10:20; Thu 3 Northgate: Fri-Wed 11:05, 1:45, 4:30, 7:10, 9:50

OUT on Stage (R) Regency: Tue 8

Paddington 2 (PG) Northgate: Tue 10am

Princess Mononoke (PG-13) Fairfax: Sun 12:55; Mon, Wed 7 Regency: Mon, Wed 7

RBG (PG) Rafael: Fri-Sat, Mon-Wed 3:45, 5:45, 8; Sun 5:45, 8; Thu 3:45

The Rider (R) Lark: Fri 6:50; Sat 2:30; Sun 10:40am; Mon 12:20; Tue 6:45; Wed 3:50; Thu 8:50

The Sandlot (PG) Regency: Sun 1, 4; Tue 7

Sicario: Day of the Soldado (R) Regency: Fri-Sat 10:35, 1:30, 4:20, 7:10, 10; Sun, Thu 10:35, 1:30, 4:20, 7:10; Mon-Tue 10:35, 1:30; Wed 1:30, 4:20, 7:10

Skyscraper (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Wed 10:40, 12:05, 2:45, 3:55, 5:20, 8, 9:10, 10:35; 3D showtimes at 1:15, 6:35 Rowland: 9:30, 12, 2:30, 5, 7:30, 10

Sorry to Bother You (R) Regency: Fri-Sat 10:40, 1:20, 4:10, 7, 9:40; Sun, Wed-Thu 10:40, 1:20, 4:10, 7; Mon-Tue 10:40, 1:20, 4:10, 7:10 Sequoia: Fri-Sat 2:05, 4:40, 7:20, 9:55; Sun-Wed 2:05, 4:40, 7:20; Thu 2:05, 4:40

Three Identical Strangers (PG-13) Playhouse: Fri-Sat 12, 2:30, 4:45, 7, 9:20; Sun-Wed 12, 2:30, 4:45, 7 Regency: Fri-Sat 11:50, 2:20, 4:50, 7:20, 9:50; Sun-Thu 11:50, 2:20, 4:50, 7:20

Uncle Drew (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Wed 12:20, 2:50, 5:20, 7:55, 10:25

Unfriended: Dark Web (R) Northgate: Fri-Wed 12:40, 3, 5:30, 7:50, 10:15

The Vatican Museums (Not Rated) Lark: Sun 1

Whitney (R) Regency: Fri-Sat 10:50, 1:50, 4:40, 7:30, 10:15; Sun-Thu 10:50, 1:50, 4:40, 7:30

Won’t You Be My Neighbor? (PG-13) Rafael: Fri-Sun 1:30, 4, 6:15, 8:15; Mon-Thu 4, 6:15, 8:15

Yellow Submarine Sing-Along (G) Rafael: Sun 3:45

 

Movie Reviews

Ant-Man and the Wasp (1:58) More Marvel superheroes go celluloid as Paul Rudd and Evangeline Lilly impersonate two very tiny world-savers.

Bolshoi Ballet: Swan Lake (2:40) Odette and Siegfried are more graceful than ever in the Bolshoi’s gorgeous production of the Tchaikovsky classic.

The Catcher Was a Spy (1:38) True tale of renaissance man Moe Berg, the erudite, multilingual major league catcher who spied for the OSS during WWII; Paul Rudd stars.

Deconstructing The Beatles: Birth of The Beatles (1:28) Filmed multimedia presentation by musicologist Scott Freiman focuses on the Fab Four’s prehistory from Liverpool teenhood to Hamburg near-stardom.

Disney’s Newsies: The Broadway Musical! (2:25) Filmed performance of the hit musical about a band of turn-of-the-century New York news kids who lead a strike against Hearst and Pulitzer.

Don’t Worry, He Won’t Get Far on Foot (1:53) Joaquin Phoenix stars as John Callahan, the real-life envelope-pushing paraplegic cartoonist; Gus Van Sant directs.

Equalizer 2 (2:09) Denzel Washington’s back as the moody and mysterious righter of wrongs; Melissa Leo costars.

The First Purge (1:37) Dystopian horror flick about a not-so-distant United States where rampant, violent lawlessness is celebrated one night per year.

The Gardener (1:28) Eye-filling documentary about Les Jardins de Quatre-Vents, an enchanted 20-acre English garden, and its creator, legendary horticulturalist Frank Cabot.  

Hearts Beat Loud (1:37) Sweet-natured musical about an aging hipster who bonds with his teenage daughter when they start an indie rock band.

Hereditary (2:07) Escalatingly unsettling horror flick stars Toni Collette as an heiress who delves too deeply into her fraught family heritage; Ari Aster directs.

Hermitage Revealed (1:23) Take an eye-filling tour through the 250-year-old St. Petersburg museum and its priceless collection of everything from prehistoric artifacts to Old Masters to Catherine the Great’s private jewels.

Hotel Transylvania 3: Summer Vacation (1:25) The monstrous cartoon innkeepers are back and looking for fun on a spook-filled ocean cruise; Mel Brooks, Steve Buscemi and Fran Drescher vocalize.

Incredibles 2 (1:58) The super-family is back with Mama Helen saving the world and Papa Bob staying home with the kids; Holly Hunter and Craig T. Nelson lend voice.

Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom (2:09) Bryce Dallas Howard and Chris Pratt head to Isla Nubar to rescue the local dinosaurs from a life-devouring volcano!

Leave No Trace (1:48) Poignant tale of a father and daughter’s idyllic life in the Oregon wilds and the encroaching urban Zeitgeist that threatens it.

Macbeth (2:33) Niamh Cusack stars as Lady Macbeth in the Royal Shakespeare Company’s immersive contemporary production of the Bard’s horrific tragedy.

Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again (1:50) Prequel/sequel mashup about young Donna’s lovers and Sophie’s impending motherhood reassembles Meryl Streep, Pierce Brosnan, Julie Walters and Amanda Seyfried.

Maquia: When the Promised Flower Blooms (1:55) Mari Okada anime about an eternally adolescent girl who dares to raise a child she knows she’ll outlive.

Mission: Impossible–Fallout (2:27) Tom Cruise, Ving Rhames, Alec Baldwin and the rest of the IM crew return in an action-packed, race-against-time summer frolic.  

Mountain (1:14) Panoramic documentary celebrates the world’s most awesome alps and the climbers who scale their death-defying heights.

OUT on Stage (1:30) Zach Noe Towers, A. B. Cassidy, Julian Michael, Janine Brito and a dozen other gay and lesbian comics discuss everything edgy in a no-boundaries comedy free-for-all.

Paddington 2 (1:45) The benevolent bear is back and going all Sherlock in foggy London town; Hugh Grant, Sally Hawkins and Julie Walters are among his posse.

The Rider (1:43) Neorealist modern Western about an Oglala Lakota Sioux rodeo rider and his family and friends features nonprofessional actors and the epic setting of Pine Ridge Indian Reservation.

The Sandlot (1:41) The new kid in town finds friendship with a posse of baseball-playin’ funsters; James Earl Jones and Karen Allen cameo.

Skyscraper (1:43) Security expert Dwayne Johnson goes all Die Hard when he finds himself in the world’s tallest skyscraper with a stem-to-stern inferno and several hundred people who want to kill him.

Sorry to Bother You (1:45) Boots Riley absurdist fantasy satire about an Oakland telemarketer striving his way through a netherworld of big-tech billionaires and anti-Zeitgeist revolutionaries.

Three Identical Strangers (1:36) Cascadingly astonishing documentary about identical triplets separated at birth, reunited decades later and . . .  

Uncle Drew (1:43) Aging hoopsters round up a team of superstars and enter a Harlem street ball tournament; Shaquille O’Neal, Reggie Miller and Nate Robinson star.

Unfriended: Dark Web (1:28) Horror flick for the Zuckerberg age as a doofus twenty-something realizes that an evil presence has been watching his every move through his laptop.

The Vatican Museums (1:45) Explore the Vatican’s dazzling collection of paintings, sculptures and frescoes by the likes of Michelangelo, da Vinci, van Gogh and Dali on a high-definition behind-the-scenes tour.

Won’t You Be My Neighbor (1:33) Loving tribute to Fred Rogers, the soft-spoken star of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, features interviews and clips from the show’s 30-year run.   

 

This Week in the Pacific Sun

In this week’s Pacific Sun we focus on food and drink. Our cover story explores how Marin County’s Straus Family Creamery stays afloat in what are turbulent times in the dairy industry. One tactic: They make a lot of great ice cream. They also try to support local agriculture. The author of that story, Jonah Raskin, has another piece about next steps in Napa County where environmentalists suffered a narrow defeat at the polls last month to reign in hillside vineyard development. It’s a story that garnered international attention. Elsewhere in this week’s issue you’ll find the latest trivia quiz, Hero and Zero, letters to the editor, movie times and reviews and of course your horoscope.

Upfront: Droning On

As the 2018 wildfire season blazes across headlines and various hotspots in California—some a little close to home—officials in Marin County are ramping up efforts to deploy drones as a potential emergency service tool.

This week, the Marin Independent Journal offered a weighty feature on the Marin County Sheriff’s Office bid to acquire unmanned aerial vehicles (UAVs) for various law enforcement and emergency services uses. The Marin drone plan was outed by a citizen who raised privacy concerns about the incipient program at a recent supervisors meeting.

Bottom line from the IJ report: They’re just getting going on a drone program in Marin County, and any use there would require a policy put in place by the Marin County Board of Supervisors.

Sonoma County, by contrast, already has two drones in its possession, but can’t use them—because there’s no county policy in place governing their deployment.

“Our volunteer Search and Rescue team does own two UAVs,” says Sonoma County Sheriff’s Office spokesman Sgt. Spencer Crum. “However, they have never been used in an operation, as we have never formally developed a policy on their use. We have not placed a priority on getting a policy completed. However, if we ever do, we would seek public input.”

The process in Sonoma County would also include required buy-in from the Sonoma County Board of Supervisors, says Crum.

As the IJ reported, a bill under consideration in Sacramento would require localities to have a written policy in place governing the use of UAVs before any local agency could deploy them. Drones have been heavily criticized by opponents for their potential, for example, to conduct surveillance on unwitting citizens.

Sonoma County has been considering a UAV program since last year, and on Oct. 2, 2017—just a week before the catastrophic wildfires—hosted an open town meeting about their proposed deployment in the county.

The San Francisco–based Electronic Frontier Foundation has been an out-front critic of UAVs ever since 2012, when the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) promulgated guidelines for the rapidly growing UAV industry, which first took flight in the public imagination as military drones blasted targets in the Middle East. The upgraded FAA regulations, notes the EFF on its website, “includes provisions to make the licensing easier and quicker for law enforcement” as it highlighted the issues with drones that have drawn fire from critics:

“Surveillance drones raise significant issues for privacy and civil liberties. Drones are capable of highly advanced surveillance and drones already in use by law enforcement can carry various types of equipment including live feed video cameras, infrared cameras, heat sensors and radar.”

The controversial devices are, however, also increasingly embraced by firefighters, especially when equipped with thermal-imaging cameras. Those pricey cameras, which according to numerous online sources can add more than $10,000 to the price of a $2,000–$3,000 drone, can detect the body heat of a fleeing perp inasmuch as they can detect a small fire before it becomes a big one.

 

Upfront: Full Measure

This spring, reporters from around the world descended on Napa County, not to write about Cabernet, Viognier and fine cuisine, but to track a volatile electoral campaign that divided the area.

Charlotte Simmonds at  The Guardian nailed it when she wrote, “A local environmental initiative has sparked fierce debate.” By way of explaining the campaign she added, “Measure C would cap the amount of oak woodland that could be cleared for future vineyards—in effect limiting the growth of some of the world’s most famous wine brands.”

The “Yes on C” forces never put the stakes that bluntly during the campaign. They talked about preserving woods and watersheds, even as many citizens rightly viewed Measure C as a battle cry to limit Big Wine’s growth and check the power of hotel-and-wine billionaires.

After the measure’s defeat, Napa County executive officer Minh Tran told the board of supervisors that in the wake of Measure C, he wanted “to harmonize the community.” Harmony will be an uphill battle after a war of words, emotional wounds not yet healed and true believers among the Yes and No folk ready to do battle again.

The vote on C took place on June 5, but the Napa Registrar of Voters, John Tuteur, didn’t issue a certified count until June 25. In its report on the vote, Forbes magazine scolded him for being “slow-paced,” but Teteur had a difficult job. Ballots were damaged or not signed; others arrived late to Teteur’s office. Mike Hackett, co-author with Jim Wilson of Measure C, monitored the count and concluded that everything was lawful, though he was obviously disappointed by
the outcome.

It seemed at first that “Yes on C” would prevail. Then the scales tipped, though not by much. 18,174 citizens voted against C; 17,533 voted for it. At least 7,000 eligible voters in Napa didn’t cast a ballot for or against. Many said that they couldn’t identify with either side.

Measure C won in four of the five Napa County cities, where much of the population resides: Calistoga, St. Helena, Yountville and Napa itself. The only urban area to vote overwhelmingly against C was American Canyon, where watersheds, wineries and groundwater are not (yet) an issue. American Canyon, population 19,454, relies on the state of California for almost all of its water.

What next for Napa? The insurgent Napa Green Party called a meeting on July 14 at the Napa Valley Unitarian Universalists. The Institute for Conservation, Advocacy, Research and Education co-sponsored the event that was attended by about 50 citizens on either side of the issue, and by elected officials such as county supervisor Ryan Gregory, a vocal opponent of C.

Ryan managed to surprise the audience at the UU when he said, “The status quo is no longer acceptable.” Even in defeat, Measure C rocked the Napa boat. “There’s been a paradigm shift,” said the Green Party’s Chris Malan, who added that next time the advocates for watershed and woodland protections ought to “play hardball” and “expose political corruption.”

Ryan Klobas, policy director for the Napa Valley Farm Bureau, which opposed C, didn’t attend the July 14 meeting, but he has told reporters that experts, not private citizens, ought to tackle complex matters. That attitude helps fuel the ire of the Green Party.

A critic of the “Yes on C” campaign, who had voted for the measure, pointed out that activists had sadly not reached out to Latinos and Filipinos, and that the language of the measure was confusing even to environmentalists.

Two activists, James Hinton and Geoff Ellsworth, are both running for public office in Napa. Like their friends and allies, they’re ready to rock the boat again, protect watersheds and save the oaks before it’s too late. The indefatigable Ellsworth, now a council member in St. Helena, hopes to be the city’s next mayor.

“I’m running for office, in part because Napa reservoirs are fragile,” he said. “We need to protect our water.”

That could be a winning slogan next time around.

 

Jonah Raskin is an occasional contributor to the ‘Bohemian.’

 

Letters to the Editor

Ordinary People

Little-known socialist Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, who was outspent 10 to 1 by a powerful incumbent Democrat, won her New York primary with a progressive, people-oriented message that attracted volunteers and brought new people to the polls. If she can do it, so can Dan Monte, a Democrat running against an incumbent Democrat for the California Assembly, and Veronica “Roni” Jacobi, another Democrat running against an incumbent Democrat for the California State Senate.

Both incumbents have large sums of campaign cash, much of it coming from corporate donors. The voting records of the incumbents reflect that. If you want a government that works for ordinary people, then choose the candidates that don’t take corporate cash.

Dan Monte entered the race because the incumbent was doing nothing to advance single-payer healthcare in California, even though a bill for single-payer healthcare had already passed in the State Senate. Dan’s primary goal is to get the bill passed. But he is a true progressive on all issues. See his website at danmonteforassembly2018.org.

Roni Jacobi is in the race because she has a passion for reversing climate disruption. She has been working on this issue for years and, as an engineer, has technical know-how that the incumbent lacks. See her website at ronijacobi.com, especially what she says about the incumbent’s voting record.

I urge everyone to volunteer for and donate to Dan Monte and Roni Jacobi’s campaigns.

Esther Riley

Fairfax

 

Hero and Zero

 

Hero

It’s a nerve-wracking experience when your car dies at a busy intersection. Jerry Kaufman of Fairfax was on the way to the mechanic when his car gave up the ghost on the Nave Boulevard offramp from 101. AAA estimated a 50-minute wait, and cars piled up behind Jerry. With his flashers on, he attempted to wave traffic around him. Some drivers whizzed by, while others sat behind him and honked. Jerry’s mechanic, Bob, arrived and tried to get the car going. No luck. There they sat with cars swerving to the left and right of them. Seeing their distress, a man, 20-ish, pulled onto the median, jumped out of his car and offered to help. Bob and the fellow pushed the car from the off-ramp to the bike lane on Nave Drive. Jerry breathed a sigh of relief and turned to thank the man. He was gone, departed without expectation of appreciation or a reward. Jerry wants you to know that you’re a fine young man, thoughtful and selfless. A hero, we’d say.

Zero

Most areas of Marin have strict signage restrictions. Look around. Not a billboard in sight. Heck, Mill Valley was recently up in arms when a business owner painted her storefront turquoise. Then there’s Corte Madera, which either hands out variances like candy or doesn’t care much about their own rules. Who can forget the apartment monstrosity at the old WinCup facility? Residents are now complaining about the new South County Marin auto dealership on the frontage road near the Tamalpais exit off 101. The eyesores include huge banners adorning most sides of the building; large graphic posters on the windows; a large permanent sign, at least 20 feet high, chock-full of logos; and a wrapped SUV. “It’s just too much,” said Kate, who lives a stone’s throw from the dealership. We suggest that Corte Madera enforce its sign ordinances and the car company invest in advertising to announce its opening.

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Cover Story: Cream Dreams

“We’re not for sale,” says Albert Straus, as pints of soft, mushy coffee ice cream come down the conveyor belt at Petaluma’s Straus Family Creamery and are placed in a freezer at –20 degrees so they’ll harden almost instantly. “When companies go public, they often care less about values and more about the return on the investment.”

The creamery’s founder dips a spoon into one of the containers, before it’s sealed, and tastes it. In comparison to national brands that are available from coast to coast, Straus ice cream is sold largely in the Bay Area, and, as a privately held company, is not traded on the New York Stock Exchange.

“These are volatile times in the milk industry,” Straus says. “On the one hand, there’s overproduction of milk globally which has decreased income for dairy farmers. On the other hand, consumers are demanding higher milk-fat products, which has created a shortage of cream and milk fat.”

Dairy farmers from Holland to Ireland and California are facing uncertain futures. Marin once boasted hundreds of dairies that stretched from Marshall to Novato and Petaluma. Today, there are less than 25 in the county.

So what does Straus Family Creamery do? Make more ice cream, in more flavors than ever before, and hope to save rural communities in the process.

Straus ice cream—which comes in 11 different flavors—is made in small batches and with minimal processing. The first flavors introduced were chocolate, vanilla and raspberry. Now they include raspberry chocolate chip, Dutch chocolate, strawberry and lemon gingersnap. Straus soft serve, which have seen a 20 percent growth in sales in the past year, is available at a half-dozen outlets in Marin County, like Pizzeria Picco in Larkspur and Cibo in Sausalito.

The ingredients in Straus ice cream are milk, cream, sugar and eggs (as a stabilizer). No gums, thickeners, stabilizers, artificial ingredients or coloring agents are used. Straus cows graze on pesticide-free pastures in both Sonoma and Marin counties.

In Marin, dairy provides more revenue than any other single aspect of agriculture. In 2016, dairies brought in $43 million. In Sonoma, the figure was $147 million. Neither grapes nor cannabis are big money makers for Marin farmers, though they are in Sonoma County.

This year marks the 15th anniversary of Straus Family Creamery ice cream. Next year is the 25th anniversary of the creamery itself, which Straus founded in 1994. Today, he’s the CEO, and face and voice, of the company. His father, who was a refugee from Hitler’s Germany, started Straus Family Dairy Farm in 1941. Albert Straus transformed the farm into the first certified organic, non-GMO dairy west of the Mississippi River.

“We’re about the triple bottom line,” Straus says. “If you’re not supporting working families and you’re not protecting the environment, you’re not a sustainable business no matter how financially successful you are.”

At a time when the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) is loosening labeling rules, Straus has stayed true to his original mission to keep GMOs out of the company’s ice cream, milk, yogurt and sour cream. More than a year ago, the food industry—hard on the heels of Trump’s anti-regulation agenda—sought to end Obama-era rules governing the disclosure of calories, sugar, fiber and serving size.

The pace of deregulation has accelerated, though all Straus ice cream containers continue to provide a list of nutritional facts, including calories, cholesterol, carbs, sugars and protein.

Transparency has helped Straus sell its ice cream. So has hot weather. The company sells 50 percent more ice cream in the summer than during the rest of the year. Straus wouldn’t reveal annual sales figures, but the North Bay Business Journal last year estimated the figure between $30 million and $40 million.

By riding the consumer desire for organic, non-GMO food, Straus has found a niche in the crowded, competitive market dominated by giant corporations like Breyers that makes ice cream with corn syrup, powdered milk and whey.

Straus has collaborative relationships with eight other family farms in the North Bay. All boast the red and white Straus sign, which features a happy cow with a large udder. By cooperating, they’re able to survive and thrive in the crazy milk market.

Straus is phasing out Holsteins in favor of Jerseys, because Jerseys produce milk with a higher fat content. In his 2018 book, Milk! A 10,000-Year Food Fracas, Mark Kurlansky explains that milk with a high percentage of fat has long been considered healthier than low-fat and skimmed milk.

The fat content of Jersey milk is 4.9 percent. The milk fat content of the Holstein, the most common U.S. dairy cow, is 3.7 percent fat, with a 3.2 percent protein level. Protein content for Jerseys is 3.8 percent.

Straus says that he came by his social conscience and his environmental awareness gradually. His mother, Ellen, along with Phyllis Faber, founded the Marin Agricultural Land Trust and later the Environmental Action Committee of West Marin that has inspired at least two generations of ecologically minded citizens.

In high school, Albert started the recycling club. At Cal Poly in San Luis Obispo, he majored in dairy science, took a class on ice cream making and served on a dairy-judging team.

“I always had the intention of making ice cream,” he says. But other projects took precedence. Ice cream production started small. It took years to develop an organic strawberry ice cream that Straus liked well enough to put on the market. Indeed, not everything has gone smoothly.

“In 1995, a Japanese company wanted us to export our ice cream,” Straus says, “but that fell through.”

In the next two to three years, Straus plans to build a larger, more technologically advanced creamery closer to major markets—somewhere not yet determined along the 101 corridor.

Relocating will mean more commuting time for Straus, but it will help many of the 85 employees at the creamery who drive long distances to get to Petaluma.

Straus also dreams about revitalizing the kinds of rural communities that were once the lifeblood of the North Bay but which have slowly withered.

“For us,” Straus says, “money is secondary to the quality of life for our family, for the surrounding community and for our employees.”

Jonah Raskin is the author of ‘Field Days: A Year of Farming, Eating and Drinking Wine in California’ and an occasional contributor to the ‘Bohemian.’

 

 

Real Astronomy

 

ARIES (March 21–April 19)  “Take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are magic.” Whenever that quote appears on the internet, it’s falsely attributed to painter Frida Kahlo. In fact, it was originally composed by poet Marty McConnell. In any case, I’ll recommend that you heed it in the coming weeks. You really do need to focus on associating with allies who see the mysterious and lyrical best in you. I will also suggest that you get inspired by a line that Frida Kahlo actually wrote: “Take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are a bourbon biscuit.” (If you don’t know what a bourbon biscuit is, I’ll tell you: chocolate buttercream stuffed between two thin rectangular chocolate biscuits.)

TAURUS (April 20–May 20)  Here’s what author Franz Kafka wrote in his diary on Aug. 2, 1914: “Germany has declared war on Russia. I went swimming in the afternoon.” We could possibly interpret his nonchalance about world events to be a sign of callous self-absorption. But I recommend that you cultivate a similar attitude in the coming weeks. In accordance with astrological omens, you have the right and the need to shelter yourself from the vulgar insanity of politics and the pathological mediocrity of mainstream culture. So feel free to spend extra time focusing on your own well-being. (P.S.: Kafka’s biographer says swimming served this role for him. It enabled him to access deep unconscious reserves of pleasurable power that renewed his spirit.)

GEMINI (May 21–June 20)  Am I delusional to advise a perky, talkative Gemini like yourself to enhance your communication skills? How dare I even hint that you’re not quite perfect at a skill you were obviously born to excel at? But that’s exactly what I’m here to convey. The coming weeks will be a favorable time to take inventory of how you could more fully develop your natural ability to exchange information. You’ll be in robust alignment with cosmic rhythms if you take action to refine the way you express your own messages and receive and respond to other people’s messages.

CANCER (June 21–July 22)  Self-described skeptics sometimes say to me, “How can any intelligent person believe in astrology? You must be suffering from a brain dysfunction if you imagine that the movements of planets can reveal any useful clues about our lives.” If the “skeptic” is truly open-minded, as an authentic skeptic should be, I offer a mini-lecture to correct his misunderstandings. If he’s not (which is the usual case), I say that I don’t need to “believe” in astrology; I use astrology because it works. For instance, I have a working hypothesis that Cancerians like myself enjoy better-than-average insight and luck with money every year from late July through the month of August. It’s irrelevant whether there’s a “scientific” theory to explain why this might be. I simply undertake efforts to improve my financial situation at this time, and I’m often successful.

LEO (July 23–August 22)  Here are some of the fine gifts you’re eligible for and even likely to receive during the next four weeks: a more constructive and fluid relationship with obsession; a panoramic look at what lies below the tip of the metaphorical iceberg; a tear-jerking joyride that cracks open your sleeping sense of wonder; erasure of at least 20 percent of your self-doubt; vivid demonstrations of the excitement available from slowing down and taking your sweet time; and a surprising and useful truth delivered to your soul by your body.

VIRGO (August 23–September 22)  During the last three months of 2018, I suspect you will dismantle or outgrow a foundation. Why? So as to prepare the way for building or finding a new foundation in 2019. From next January onward, I predict you will re-imagine the meaning of home. You’ll grow fresh roots and come to novel conclusions about the influences that enable you to feel secure and stable. The reason I’m revealing these clues ahead of time is because now is a good time to get a foreshadowing of how to proceed. You can glean insights on where to begin your work.

LIBRA (September 23–October 22)  A reader asked Libran blogger Ana-Sofia Cardelle, “How does one become more sensual?” I’ll ask you to meditate on the same question. Why? Because it’s a good time to enrich and deepen your sensuality. For inspiration, here are some ideas that blend my words with Cardelle’s: “Laugh easily and freely. Tune in to the rhythm of your holy animal body as you walk. Sing songs that remind you why you’re here on earth. Give yourself the luxury of reading books that thrill your imagination and fill you with fresh questions. Eat food with your fingers. Allow sweet melancholy to snake through you. Listen innocently to people, being warm-hearted and slyly wild. Soak up colors with your eager eyes. Whisper grateful prayers to the sun as you exult in its gifts.”

SCORPIO (October 23–November 21)  “If people aren’t laughing at your goals, your goals are too small.” So says bodybuilder Kai Greene. I don’t know if I would personally make such a brazen declaration, but I do think it’s worth considering—especially for you right now. You’re entering into the Big Bold Vision time of your astrological cycle. It’s a phase when you’ll be wise to boost the intensity of your hopes for yourself, and get closer to knowing the ultimate form of what you want, and be daring enough to imagine the most sublime possible outcomes for your future. If you do all that with the proper chutzpah, some people may indeed laugh at your audacity. That’s OK!

SAGITTARIUS (November 22–December 21)  This mini-chapter in your epic life story is symbolically ruled by the fluttering flights of butterflies, the whirring hum of hummingbird wings, the soft cool light of fireflies, and the dawn dances of seahorses. To take maximum advantage of the blessings life will tease you with in the coming weeks, I suggest you align yourself with phenomena like those. You will tend to be alert and receptive in just the right ways if you cultivate a love of fragile marvels, subtle beauty, and amazing grace.

CAPRICORN (December 22–January 19)  I swear the astrological omens are telling me to tell you that you have license to make the following requests: 1. People from your past who say they’d like to be part of your future have to prove their earnestness by forgiving your debts to them and asking your forgiveness for their debts to you. 2. People who are pushing for you to be influenced by them must agree to be influenced by you. 3. People who want to deepen their collaborations with you must promise to deepen their commitment to wrestling with their own darkness. 4. People who say they care for you must prove their love in a small but meaningful way.

AQUARIUS (January 20–February 18)  You will never find an advertisement for Nike or Apple within the sacred vessel of this horoscope column. But you may come across plugs for soul-nourishing commodities like creative freedom, psychosexual bliss and playful generosity. Like everyone else, I’m a salesperson—although I believe that the wares I peddle are unambiguously good for you. In this spirit, I invite you to hone your own sales pitch. It’s an excellent time to interest people in the fine products and ideas and services that you have to offer.

PISCES (February 19–March 20)  Would you do me a favor, please? Would you do your friends and loved ones and the whole world a favor? Don’t pretend you’re less powerful and beautiful than you are. Don’t downplay or neglect the magic you have at your disposal. Don’t act as if your unique genius is nothing special. OK? Are you willing to grant us these small indulgences? Your specific talents, perspectives and gifts are indispensable right now. The rest of us need you to be bold and brazen about expressing them.

 

 

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