Q: My girlfriend and I broke up recently, so I’m back in the dating pool. Do you think online dating is a good way to meet people? If so, which are the best dating sites?—Diving In
A: Asking, “Which dating site is best?” is like asking, “Is pro basketball a viable career?” That question can only be answered by asking other questions, such as, “Aren’t you a 47-year-old, 5’2” Ashkenazi Jewish woman with 20/80 vision and bad knees?”
To put this another way, context matters—which isn’t what they tell you in Datingsiteville. Save for specialty sites—like those for farmers, the disabled and people who relish a good flogging—the advertising for these venues tends to be context-free: “Hey, everybody in the entire galaxy, get your lasting love here!”
Annoyingly, though most of us have a sense of what context is, nobody’s done a very good job of defining it—either in the dictionary or in Researchville, where I found a herd of dueling definitions, all so unhelpfully worded that they seem to be in secret code. So here’s my definition: Context is a combo platter of the particular situation at hand, plus the details relevant to it that affect how you understand or experience the situation. In the context of online dating, the relevant details include age, sex, the quality of the competition and one’s desired situation, as in: Do you just want casual sex, or are you holding out for something a little more, uh, black tie?
There are sex differences in when people are at their most appealing, because men and women tend to be at their highest “mate value” at different ages. This comes out of how male sexuality evolved to be visually driven. Women, however, evolved to go for “providers”—men with high status and earning power. So, online dating tends to be more fruitful if you’re a hot 23-year-old female espresso jockey or a 43-year-old male VP of a successful startup, but it can have some challenges for the 43-year-old female startup star or the 23-year-old dude who’s the senior vice barista.
So the question is not whether dating sites work but whether the qualities you have and the situation you’re seeking add up to more than a few tumbleweeds blowing around in your inbox. Because online dating success is shaped more by personal context (and plain old luck) than by the particular site you’re on, you might experiment with two or three. If things go poorly, use online dating as a supplement to meeting women the retro way, like at cocktail parties, where you won’t be competing with the 362 more genetically blessed males within a 35-mile radius. This vastly increases your chances of dazzling the ladies with your personality—distracting them from how Mother Nature zoned out when she was handing out necks to your family.
Q: This guy asked me out and suggested we meet up after his dentist appointment. He said he’d call around 2pm. Well, at 9:30pm, I got a “Hey” text from him and didn’t respond. A friend said I shouldn’t write him off so fast. Am I being too harsh?—Dependability Fan
A: Individual bits of behavior are like cockroaches. You might see just one lonely roach twerking atop the toaster oven, but its presence suggests a whole colony of the buggers … gluing sequins to their exoskeletons and practicing their moonwalk behind the baseboard.
No, you can’t always judge someone by a single thing they do, but this guy’s one-word text—seven hours after he said he’d call—speaks volumes: “Holy moly, wouldya look at the time. It’s 9:30, and I could use some sex.”
How a person behaves is driven by their personality traits, which social psychologist Brent Roberts describes as habitual patterns of thoughts, feelings and behavior that are relatively consistent across time and situations. Granted, there are occasions when impulse gets the best of us, and we’ll say something like, “That wasn’t really me.” But, at least in some way, it really was, because even impulsivity is part of personality.
A person can resolve to act more conscientiously, but personality has a strong genetic basis, so they’re unlikely to be as motivated to be conscientious as someone whose genes make them feel icky when they aren’t. In other words, you were probably wise in nixing this guy, who couldn’t even be bothered to fake respect for your feelings by supplementing that “Hey” with “Carjacked!” “Carried off by a raptor!”
Hero: A Very Important Kitten received a police escort from the Golden Gate Bridge last Saturday afternoon. After a concerned citizen called the California Highway Patrol (CHP) around 2:50pm to report that a kitten was in the middle of the bridge, officers hustled to the scene. No kitty spotted on the first pass across the bridge, but the CHP was determined to find the little one and they turned around to take a second look.
California Highway Patrol officer Matt Smith holds the tiny, rescued Bridges. Photo courtesy of CHP.
That’s when they noticed a furry head peeking out from inside the median barrier. They blocked a lane of traffic, exited their vehicle and rescued the baby cat. Officer Matt Smith then transported the kitten, who is now named Bridges, to VCA Madera Pet Hospital in Corte Madera for a complimentary exam, bath and medications. Because the approximately eight-week-old Bridges had no ID tag or microchip, Officer Smith took him home for the weekend and then delivered him to the Marin Humane Society, where he’ll be available for adoption. Thanks Officer Smith and VCA Madera Pet Hospital for being the cat’s meow.
In 1864, a wounded Union deserter becomes a fox in a henhouse. In both versions of The Beguiled(1971/2017) Corporal McBurney manipulates the Confederate ladies of a small finishing school. Is it Christian love or devilish lust that makes the half-dozen ladies conceal the enemy soldier from the patrolling Confederate troops? It’s unclear who the title refers to, unless everyone here is beguiled, and a self-beguiler.
In the thin, pretty-pretty Sofia Coppola redo, McBurney (Colin Farrell) tries to flirt the ladies into submission … for a time, the Irish accent, the melting glances and the outrageous compliments work. He’s always watching, seeing how his hostesses are taking his show of gentlemanly behavior. The easiest pickings would seem to be Edwina (Kirsten Dunst, playing the Elizabeth Hartman old-maid part), but she’s someone who can match McBurney’s almost periscopic side-eye: She’s not as weak as she looks.
Coppola’s Cannes-honored remake has a shorter running time than the Don Siegel/Clint Eastwood original, and yet that original seemed like a speedier pulp version of D.H. Lawrence, with Geraldine Page excelling as the head witch in charge. Jo Ann Harris, a torrid-eyed wanton, is replaced by a more inwardly-neurotic Elle Fanning. Nicole Kidman replaces Page.
If the first Beguiled was a hothouse, this is more of a boutique, uncommitted to horror, effective melodrama or social comedy. This Beguiled has no dirt under its fingernails. Watching this Virgin “Homicides” of Coppola, it’s unclear whether the movie is a protest against the old-time women’s world of caged seclusion, or a celebration of those good old days when a lady sat, looked elegant and waited for stuff to be brought to her.
Bay Area jazz trio Charged Particles is not afraid to plug in and get loud when the occasion calls for it. Over its nearly 30-year history, the group has engaged in a variety of genre-blending projects marked by elaborate arrangements and fiery performances.
This month, San Francisco saxophonist Tod Dickow joins Charged Particles for a concert tribute to influential saxophonist and bandleader Michael Brecker (who passed away in 2007) at Blue Note Napa on Wednesday, July 12.
Founded by Stanford professor and drummer Jon Krosnick, Charged Particles also features keyboardist Murray Low and bassist Aaron Germain. Together, the group achieves a broad spectrum of jazz with an emphasis on jazz-fusion’s heavy doses of synthesizers and amplified instruments.
“Around 1970, Miles Davis, Weather Report and others saw synthesizers and the electric bass as a way to increase the volume, increase the energy and increase the breadth of sounds you had to offer audiences,” Krosnick explains. “All of a sudden it became very loud and very intense.”
These days, Krosnick notes that many jazz players have gone back to the acoustic styles popular before 1970, and his aim for Charged Particles is to embrace all of those historic periods and sensibilities into a blend.
“What we want to do is to make sure the audience is engaged and interested and surprised as often as possible,” Krosnick says.
According to Krosnick, Michael Brecker is “in the handful of the most important jazz musicians ever.” “He really set a standard for technical excellence, but his brilliant creative ideas and innovative compositions moved the music forward,” Krosnick says.
Charged Particles, with Tod Dickow; Wednesday, July 12; Blue Note Napa; 1030 Main St., Napa; 7pm and 9:30pm; $10-$20; bluenotenapa.com.
Back in the day, there was Rubik’s Cube. At the height of the craze, somebody gave me one and stood watching and smirking while I struggled to put the pieces together. I failed, an outcome that was repeated many times during the next year or two until I finally gave up and put it in a bag of discarded items that was delivered to Goodwill.
At first, my reaction to the repeated failures was frustration. With friends boasting of their increasing prowess, I wondered whether my IQ was so low that I was destined for failure in life. Gradually, however, it dawned on me that they might have it wrong. Why did it matter if I were able to reassemble the scrambled segments in five hours, five seconds or never? All I would have was the identical six-sided plastic cube that I started with. “Yes,” they said knowingly, “but it’s what lies between, the journey, that counts.”
Truth is, I never did buy that explanation, but the same mixture of frustration, self-doubt and skepticism flooded back as I left Aurora’s Mainstage Theatre in Berkeley, after the opening night performance of Splendour, by the British writer Abi Morgan. The play, which is having its Bay Area premiere, opens with Micheline, Morgan’s protagonist, alone in her upscale residence, miming rearranging shoes on imaginary closet shelves. She’s seemingly oblivious to the muffled sounds of streetfighting outside as she awaits the arrival of her dictator husband for an appointment with a foreign photojournalist. When the intermission-less drama ends about two hours later, she’s again alone, sitting in a window alcove, seemingly oblivious to the tumult that is now about to engulf her.
So what do we learn in those two hours that makes this particular journey worthwhile? Despite vague allusions by reviewers of past productions to “long buried secrets being revealed” and “insights into how violence affects the wives of strongmen around the world,” the information bin remains relatively empty.
Four women—the wife, her best friend, the photojournalist and the latter’s interpreter—gather in a small sitting room inside the presidential palace. Where this is taking place is never identified. (Some have suggested an Eastern European state like Ceausescu’s Romania, but that appears unlikely if the husband is named Julio.) The issues being fought over by the two sides are barely mentioned, let alone explored. There are abrupt time shifts. A constantly ringing telephone goes unanswered even though the caller might have vital information. Parts of scenes are repeated over and over, separated by battle noise and the sound of breaking glass as the interpreter drops a vase hidden under her coat. The women chit-chat about their past lives, accompanied by interior monologues spoken to the audience about their real feelings toward each other and other personal subjects. From this we glean that Genevieve, Micheline’s best friend for 35 years, has really despised her all that time, the interpreter is both unreliable and a kleptomaniac and the journalist herself is a victim of the myth that the profession demands that she stay on the job despite any danger. It’s a pretty meager harvest. Only in the final minutes is there a serious recognition of the perilous situation they are in and what to do about it.
My point is that, from a content perspective, Splendour is essentially a complex structural puzzle that, like the Rubik’s Cube, may not be worth trying to solve. On the positive side, Aurora must be complimented for casting four accomplished female actors—Lorri Holt as Micheline, Mia Tagano as Genevieve, Denmo Ibrahim as the photojournalist and Sam Jackson as the interpreter. The addition of director Barbara Damashek makes it (on the performance side) an all-women project. Despite the script’s shortcomings, it’s one small but welcome step in addressing theater’s endemic gender disparity.
NOW PLAYING: Splendour runs through July 23 at the Aurora Theatre Company, 2081 Addison St., Berkeley; 510/843-4822; auroratheatre.org.
First impressions are a tricky thing. Elizabeth Lavoie may look like an actress—but then again, she really did spend her 20s acting in Los Angeles. The one thing you’ll find harder to derive from Lavoie’s edgy and fashion-forward look is a passionate love for customizing cashmere sweaters—but that’s exactly what keeps her happy these days.The woman behind The Utility Room, a new boutique in Fairfax, is full of surprises.“After L.A., my 30s were a mix of having babies and getting a masters in creative writing,” Lavoie says. In August of last year, she opened The Utility Room after her previous retail venture, the well-loved The Shop in Olema, became no longer hers. “My store is my sanctuary,” she adds. “I have three kids, I’m single and sometimes I need a break.”The Utility Room, full of attractive objects and motivational slogans, can be an instant sanctuary for anyone who walks in; it is now the home of The Utility Room the brand, which Lavoie started four years ago while juggling other retail businesses.“I started the label when I had the opportunity to have a space in The Garage, an artisan collective in Fairfax,” she says. “I had no idea that this would become my career. At the time, I was a stay-at-home mom; sewing was the thing that I got to do when my other chores were done—it was dessert. Now sewing is my work, what I get to do all day long.”
The sewing machine located in the welcoming space is proof of that, and often you’ll find Lavoie creating something on the spot, upon a customer’s request. You’ll also find Lavoie’s upcycled cashmere products and other projects, such as jewelry, girls’ dresses, serapes and even homemade fudge, as well as a selection of curated home goods, design objects and accessories with a strong Californian appeal.
“I named the brand and the store The Utility Room because I’m a dedicated utilitarian,” Lavoie says. “When I buy for the store, beyond my intuitive sense of what pleases my eye, I look towards beauty and usefulness. With clothing, that means comfort, but not at the price of style. My goal when I design and buy is to populate the shop with clothes that a woman will feel grounded in, feel herself in the best possible way. I incorporate vintage, handmade, upcycled and new products in what is hopefully a magical jumble.”
Lavoie’s own designs stem from a desire to “make use of discarded objects by giving them new life.” The best example, perhaps, is the array of cool-looking, fresh sweaters hanging in the shop. “I love cashmere but I’m a bargain shopper,” she explains. “I’ve been sewing my whole life and it occurred to me that I could salvage cashmere from thrift stores and either refurbish the sweaters by washing, combing, mending and sometimes adding appliqués over holes or stains, or by cutting them up and sewing them together to make new garments. It’s a magic material; warm and breathable.”
These adjectives could describe Fairfax itself, its laid-back charm easily accommodating Lavoie’s latest endeavor.
“I’m really passionate about this town,” Lavoie says. “Often, I’ll find myself preaching its virtues to my out-of-town customers.”
Lavoie grew up in Mill Valley, and Fairfax reminds her of Mill Valley in the ’70s. “There is some economic diversity here, rare these days in Marin. There are still artists and characters. I can’t walk down the street without running into someone I know,” she muses. “It’s a small town with a deep and quirky soul, a hint of sophistication added by the proximity of San Francisco.”
Lavoie’s been back in the area since 2000, living intermittently in Fairfax and San Anselmo. “Currently, my zip code is in San Anselmo, but my heart is in Fairfax,” she says. “I’m really proud to be a local, independent business owner in this town where every shop and restaurant I can think of is locally owned and run. My kids come and go, as do their friends and mine. It’s a rich life.”
The Utility Room, 10 Bolinas Rd., Fairfax; theutilityroom.net.
Pickling can happen any time there are ripe veggies for the picking. Now it’s cucumber season, which lasts basically all summer long. Beans are upon us, too. Soon come the pickled peppers, large batches in large jars, sometimes with carrots. Then maybe some beets.
Vinegar pickles are a versatile way to go that can accommodate anything you could want to eat pickled, from cauliflower to kohlrabi, not to mention the asparagus that’s already come and gone. I do all of my pickling in basically the same go-to brine recipe. With small adjustments here or there, it works for pretty much anything.
Ari’s Pickle Principles
Use Kirby-style, aka pickling cucumbers—the kind with the little bumps/spikes on them. These can withstand higher temperatures, without getting soggy, than slicing cukes. They should be small, no more than five inches long and an inch or so wide, and fresh.
Pack the washed cucumbers into clean, sterile quart jars, leaving an inch of headspace at the top. The brine is half water and half vinegar, with the vinegar part being half cider vinegar and half white wine vinegar. I like the cider vinegar for the flavor, but if you want the visual of a pristine white brine, use only white wine vinegar.
Heat the brine on medium, adding sugar a little at a time until it doesn’t quite taste sweet but takes the edge off the vinegar—about a tablespoon per quart. While the brine heats, add a tablespoon of mustard seeds to each jar, and a tablespoon of salt. When the brine reaches a boil, pour it into the jars so it covers the veggies and still leaves a half-inch of headspace; screw on the lids. Process in a water bath for 15 minutes (for cukes).
Living life on a pickle’s edge isn’t for everyone, and for liability reasons I need to stress that if you even consider not cooking your pickles you will immediately contract botulism and your house will burst into flames. If you cook your cukes, they can still come out crispy enough if you use Kirbys that are young and fresh, and add a grape or horseradish leaf, for example. And if those aren’t crispy enough, keep a batch of fridge pickles going. Or maybe it’s time to venture into sour pickles, which aren’t cooked either. The lazy crispy pickle.
When it comes to the roll-out of a unified cannabis policy in California, a sativa singularity if you will, the devil is definitely in the details—not to mention the tongue-twisting parade of cannabis-bill acronyms that are hard to keep up with. Now that the state has merged its medical and adult-use recreational regimes into one law, what’s next? Is everyone happy yet?
In late June, Gov. Brown signed a budget bill rider co-authored by North Coast Sen. Mike McGuire, D-Healdsburg, that aimed to fully square up 2016’s Medical Marijuana Regulation and Safety Act (MMSRA) with the Adult Use of Marijuana Act (AUMA)—while protecting North Coast growers from a rapacious Big Cannabis onslaught.
Enter MAUCRSA, the Medical and Adult-Use Cannabis Regulation and Safety Act, and roughly pronounced “mao-curser.” What happens now that the state has acted speedily and decisively to bring its pot laws under one roof? The medical community, not to mention this newspaper, had declared that the state was “not ready” for legalization last year—but ready or not, the state now has one law and a whole bunch of details to sort out.
For one thing, a 500-page draft Project Environmental Impact Review (PEIR), issued by the California Department of Food and Agriculture (CDFA) in June, may be amended or revised to reflect changes in the new law that will impact the department, which has broad licensing and regulatory powers in the state’s cannabis economy.
As the cannabis legislation was getting hashed out in Sacramento this spring, with a big push from McGuire’s rider bill, the CDFA issued its epic PEIR, which, as Rebecca Forée at the CDFA says, was written with the changing law in mind, even if it doesn’t explicitly address all the changes that emerged in the final product—including the creation of an “appellation” regime overseen by the CDFA.
“We were aware of the trailer bill as we were preparing the draft PEIR,” says Forée, communications manager at CalCannabis Cultivation Licensing, a branch of the CDFA charged with overseeing the licensing of cannabis cultivators.
“However, the exact text of the law was in flux at that time. Therefore, we crafted the draft PEIR to accommodate a range of possible outcomes—from the existing bill [prior to passage of the trailer bill] to the passage of some form of the trailer bill.”
Forée says a final PEIR will be issued by year’s end and will incorporate new aspects of the law contained in the McGuire rider. She says she doesn’t anticipate that the PEIR will be delayed or that the agency would need to reissue it. The draft PEIR was prepared by the Oakland-based Horizon Water and Environment.
“We are in the process of carefully reviewing the trailer bill language to determine what portions of the draft PEIR may need to be revisited or amended in the final PEIR,” Forée says.
The draft PEIR is now in a state-mandated 45-day comment period through the end of July.
One key provision in McGuire’s rider—which helped it gain the support of the California Growers Association, a statewide lobby—is the inclusion of a measure to create cannabis “appellations” to help protect growers in cannabis country.
In a statement about his rider released on June 12, McGuire highlights that 60 percent of all of the cannabis grown in the country comes from four California counties—which he happens to represent: Sonoma, Marin, Mendocino and Humboldt.
With that fact in mind, McGuire—and fellow North Coast Assemblyman Jim Wood—was adamant that North Coast growers needed to be protected in whatever reconciliation bill emerged from the medical-meets-recreational legislative process.
McGuire’s budget rider bill pushed for enhanced environmental regulations in the cannabis industry—he’s been a big anti-illegal-grow zealot—and for the creation of “an organic-standards program for cannabis.”
A much-needed North Coast “one-stop shop for tax and license collections”so would-be cultivators don’t have to drive five hours to Sacramento to apply for a license is on the way, and the McGuire rider also recognizes agricultural co-ops, “ensuring that small family cultivators can thrive in the new regulatory system.”
The MAUCRSA lifts some restrictions on licensing—a grower can have a medical and recreational license, for example—and offers a new designation for cultivators that would allow for small-scale “boutique” grows, provided the local and county governments approve (local control is very much highlighted in the McGuire rider).
The adult-use law, which California voters approved via Proposition 64 last election day—had placed the appellation process in the purview of the Bureau of Medical Cannabis Regulation, which operates under the aegis of the state Department of Consumer Affairs, and gave the industry and regulators until 2018 to create an appellation regime for California cannabis.
The MAUCRSA shifts this responsibility to the CDFA and stretches the timeline to 2020. But there’s no mention of the CDFA’s new role as appellation-designator in the draft PEIR. Forée says it will be in the final version.
The agency is also given authority over a new track-and-trace program that will keep the state eye on cannabis products, from seed to store.
The “appellation” issue is of course a big deal in the California wine industry. Indeed, the California State Fair, to be held July 14–30 this year in Sacramento, has a big wine competition—and the state fair is very serious about the rules when they pertain to where a grape is grown: “In order for a wine to qualify in any region, the label must designate the appellation of the grapes,” under federal regulations that established so-called American Viticultural Areas, and which are protected by booze-and-tobacco agents of the United States Department of the Treasury.
Will a future California State Fair have a cannabis contest with designated “American Cannabis Areas”?
That’s anyone’s guess, but with any federal descheduling of cannabis resting in the hands of Attorney General Jeff Sessions, who has demonstrated a certain unyielding contempt for cannabis, it’s up to the state of California to come up with the appellation regime for cannabis, in order to protect the local growers by regulating source-of-bud claims in marketing and licensing.
In a statement, McGuire says that his rider also allows for the co-location of medical and recreational cannabis under one roof “and clarifies that businesses cannot mislead consumers as to the origin of marijuana products on labeling, advertising, marketing or packaging.” He’d pushed for this in previous bill, SB 175.
Forée describes the overarching purpose of the PEIR as a mechanism “to evaluate and disclose the potentially significant impacts of implementing the CDFA’s responsibilities under MAUCRSA, and to identify ways to minimize or avoid those impacts that are found to be significant.”
The CDFA, she adds, will set the parameters and assumptions within which cultivators can operate. But the state regulations leave room for localities to set their own eco-terms for would-be cultivators. “In some cases, due to the broad, statewide level of analysis in the PEIR, additional site-specific CEQA compliance may be required for individual cultivation sites or groups of sites (e.g., those within a particular county or city),” Forée says. “We expect that such a site-specific CEQA evaluation would often be conducted by the local jurisdiction where the cultivation site(s) is located.”
The CDFA’s role in those instances would be to review the site-specific CEQA as part of the application process.
The new law keeps intact a provision that bans large cultivators from the state until 2023. But in the meantime, licensing restrictions in the MCSRA were also loosened so that licensees can also hold medical and adult-use licenses. And small-time cannabis growers got a big victory in the new law, which removes a requirement that growers use an outside distributor to get their crop to market. The high times are just beginning.
It’s been building a while, the sense that the novel, far from being exiled indefinitely from the hurly-burly of relevance, was tacking back into the mix, recovered from the fashion consciousness of campus influence and other existential threats, ready to stand and be counted.
Now, as we peer through the lurid gloom of life in the Trump era, it’s clear that journalists and nonfiction writers, chained to the ascendancy of “facts” in an era when fewer and fewer of us really believe in them anymore, cannot compete with the power of a go-for-broke novelist with a light touch, an ear for comedy and human foible, and the sheer stamina and grit to cobble together a great yarn over years of effort.
This is the era of writers like Nathan Hill, whose hit novel The Nix skewers millennial entitlement, boomer self-importance and everything in between, but above all retrieves the recent past and in so doing reanimates the present and the future. In other words, the book unlocks a gate through which many others can and should surge forth.
If nothing else, the giddy praise Hill has earned—“In my opinion he is the best new writer of fiction in America,” John Irving proclaimed—ought to inspire young writers to ponder his example, and it’s a good one to consider. The best part about Hill is his insistence that his dazzling literary success owes mostly to his having decided on a philosophy of essentially saying “Fuck it!” He opted out of the all-too-common syndrome of worrying too much about what anyone else thinks of your writing. Instead, he went for it and spent 10 years writing a novel mostly for himself, the way one dives into gardening.
The acclaimed novel was one of last year’s most talked-about books, with many critics noting its “Trump-like” Republican presidential candidate Gov. Packer—a character Hill created years before Trump ran for office. And its splashy debut came at a time when fiction was showing signs of a new resurgence; in its overview of 2016 book trends, the Los Angeles Times declared, “Long-form nonfiction is in peril.” The sudden rise of George Orwell’s dystopian classic 1984 to bestseller lists was widely noted, but the Atlantic and the BBC looked deeper into the trend to discover that the Trump era seemed to be elevating sales of other fiction, as well.
Before that, Hill had been living in Queens, toiling away on short stories to land the usual prestige publication credits, when he decided to move to Florida and start fresh. Writers need other writers, but squeeze too many of them into your consciousness and it’s like packing an elevator with too many overdressed men who have hit the man-perfume way too hard. Getting away clearly did wonders for Hill’s talent.
“The stuff I was doing in New York really wasn’t that good,” Hill said in a recent phone conversation, just after he’d returned from a trip to France to promote the roughly 719th foreign edition of his novel. “I was writing for all the wrong reasons. I’d moved to New York with a bunch of people from my MFA program [at UMass Amherst]. I was very careerist, thinking about editors and Paris Review parties and who was getting published where—thinking about everything but the actual writing. I was trying to be popular in New York. I wasn’t writing any particular truth.”
When Hill’s apartment was broken into, his computer was stolen—and along with it, years of writing vanished into thin air, gone as surely as the carbons of early short stories that Ernest Hemingway’s first wife famously lost. With Hill, as with Hemingway and most any other writer, this was surely a good thing. Not until Hill moved to Florida to be near the bassoonist who would become his wife did his work on the novel that became The Nix really open up in a new direction.
“Even more than getting all the stuff stolen, it was that early failure, kind of a global failure—going to New York City but not becoming the writer I thought I was going to become, or really finding any success at all—that led me in a different direction,” he says. “I started to write The Nix for really different reasons. When that kicked in, the writing just opened up.
“I stopped sending stuff out to agents and editors and magazines,” he continues. “I stopped giving my work to writing friends who I went to school with.”
Years of feedback from writing classes and groups had been helpful, but for his writing to take off he had to hit the mute button on all that. “There comes a point where you have to do something that’s idiosyncratic, that’s just you,” he says. “You have to tune out all those voices, no matter how well-meaning and helpful they might be.”
Not everyone would feel comfortable building a 625-page novel around a main character, Samuel Andresen-Anderson, who is just sort of there. He’s no hero, no anti-hero, and the main things we know about him are that even into adulthood he lives in constant mortified terror of slipping into a crying jag, which he breaks down into categories like storms; that he teaches, but kind of hates it; and that his mother abandoned him when he was young. Oh, and he’s a writer, or sort of a writer.
Samuel feels like the buddy you have at college without ever knowing why, since you don’t really like each other all that much, but his life opens up to us in a way that makes it impossible not to care. We’re particularly pulled in by his account of twins he knew in his youth: Violin-playing Bethany, who will define beauty for Samuel his whole life, and her brother Bishop, pulled prematurely into adulthood in a way that touches Samuel as well. As I wrote in my review of The Nix for the San Francisco Chronicle last year: “This is a novel about an understanding taking years to unfold.”
“She’d decided that about eighty percent of what you believe about yourself when you’re 20 turns out to be wrong,” a character observes. “The problem is you don’t know what your small true part is until much later.”
Much as Northern California writer Emma Cline used her novel The Girls to breathe new life into our understanding of one aspect of the 1960s—the charismatic allure of a Charles Manson–type figure—Hill uses this story about a son in search of a vanished mother to papier-mâché together a shockingly vivid reimagining of the famous clubbing of protesters by overzealous Chicago police that will always be associated with the 1968 Democratic Convention. Hill slows down time in a way that mesmerizes. He takes a reader used to thinking about shorter attention spans and quietly changes the subject. For the right book, page count doesn’t matter; quality does.
Hill has a secret, and it’s one worth emulating. He likes his characters. He loves his characters. They are all flawed, they all have their sorrows, but even when they’re being hilariously over-the-top awful, he’s smiling to share with us their over-the-top awfulness. There are important lessons here. When one of the Trump
Nathan Hill spent 10 years writing his book ‘The Nix’ without worrying what others would think about it.
sons, looking like a bad-hair outcast from a remake of the cheeseball TV show Dynasty, went on Fox News in early June to share the opinion that, to him, Democrats are “not even people,’ the natural first reaction was to snicker at the sheltered cluelessness of this son of a son of privilege, this epic lack of understanding of anything other than his deranged father’s rants.
But actually, the quote was a rare case of a Trump speaking for many people, not just the tiny sliver of the country that supports this reckless presidency. Eric Trump’s words should make us all think. Too many people of too many viewpoints have been so riled, so addled with pent-up frustration and rage, they too have come to think of others as “not even people,” which is a trend probably as toxic to real democracy as the Supreme Court’s Citizen United decision equating political contributions to free speech.
It does no good to write off whole swaths of the country as rubes, simple and easy to sway, even if the Trump wave did pull along all sorts of people who ought to have known better. It does no good to assume we understand everything about them. Far better to take the crisis afflicting the country and use it as a prod to try anew to understand people from all regions of the country, from all viewpoints, up to and including hate-mongers. The question is: How do we do this? We could use a Studs Terkel, interviewing everyone and panning for gold. But journalism can only make so much headway in this direction. Fiction holds far more potential.
This, I think, is the ultimate thrill of reading Nathan Hill: Having the sense of getting to know people we’d thought were walled off from us. His baton-swinging cop, for example, is a tour de force, human and sad, so much so that I for one almost felt like I was identifying with him even as he slammed protesters in the head with that baton—well, at least for a moment or two. The point is simply to turn back from the glibness of hate or bias to what we are born knowing, that what unites us is stronger and vaster than that which divides us.
Reading Hill, I’m thinking that some young novelist out there with flash and nerve is going to find a way to build a fictional tunnel from the present to 1969 California, when an actor in the Governor’s Mansion in Sacramento ordered the National Guard into Berkeley to crack down on protesters who wanted to turn a scruffy little vacant lot owned by the state into a People’s Park. James Rector of San Jose, an innocent bystander, was killed in the melee, and the silent majority rallied behind Reagan and his show of force. He rode the tough-guy-on-a-horse image all the way to the White House. But like Chicago in ’68, it’s all become a cartoon. Only a great novelist can really reclaim that kind of territory for us, as Hill has done in The Nix.
The book was published in hardcover before last November’s election (it’s newly out in paperback), which seems oddly fitting. Post–Trump election, like post 9-11, the fiction writer feels a tidal wave of pressure to try to do something with the flotsam and jetsam of what used to be a culture. It’s overwhelming, which is why if you follow writers’ social media feeds you read much in November and afterward about people who couldn’t get out of bed for days or weeks on end. It was paralyzing.
Hill was in Southern California this spring to receive a Los Angeles Times Book Prize, and in accepting the honor, joked that he was glad to get the award—while California “is still part of the country,” showing he was aware of the fledgling movement to get a secession measure on the California ballot.
“If that gets on the ballot, who knows what happens?” Hill told me on the phone.
The joke was also a kind of homage to fellow novelist Michelle Richmond. Back in 2009, when she was working on the project that would become the novel Golden State, Richmond was going for outlandish but not too outlandish when she sat down to write a scene about Californians going to the polls to vote on seceding from the United States.
Talking to Hill on the phone, I read aloud from what Richmond had told me about the novel: “‘In the book, it’s moved from fringe to reality because a new president wants to spend $12 billion of taxpayer money on a border wall with Mexico.’”
“My God!” Hill cut in good-naturedly, loving it.
“‘He wants a war with Iran, he wants to roll back environmental protections and he’s rolling back reproductive and gay rights,’” I continued, quoting Richmond. “‘When I was writing the book, I thought eventually there will be some sort of vote, but that’s far in the future.’”
“That’s amazing,” Hill said. “The Trump-like character in my book, Gov. Packer, was written similarly a long time ago, eight years ago. I took this kind of baseline Tea Party Republican candidate who seemed to be getting popular, and pushed him to absurdity to see what happens.”
It takes years, generally, to create the world-within-a-world of a novel that comes alive enough for characters to talk on their own, leading the writer more than the other way around. As Hill put it to me: “That takes a long time to get to, to feel that the character is speaking to you, not that you’re turning the wrench.”
There is something transcendently important about that commitment of time and energy, that investment of caring and doing, and it’s potentially an important antidote to the pop-off-in-four-seconds-flat culture in which we find ourselves, led of course by the Popper-Off-in-Chief. More even than the beauty, power and importance of his great novel, I’d point a new reader to the following words as an introduction to Hill and what he stands for:
“I really want to take the time with my own political feeling and political thinking,” he told me on the phone. “I don’t want to make snap judgments. For example, as I write my next book, it’s really tempting to try to deal with the age of Trump, but I don’t think that would make a very good book. It’s too new. I don’t have enough distance from it yet. And frankly, I’m not incredibly confident about my own opinions.
“And I’m shocked at how many are extraordinarily confident in their opinions and extraordinarily sure they are right. I’d rather take my time. I don’t even take to Twitter very often, as you might have seen. I don’t want to become a kind of opinion vending machine. I reserve the right to keep my opinions to myself and think about it for a very, very long time. I’m well aware that at any time I could be wrong.”
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