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Ant-Man and the Wasp (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Tue 10, 1, 4, 6:55, 9:55

The Big Lebowski (R) Regency: Sun, Wed 2, 7

BlacKkKlansman (R) Regency: Thu 7 Sequoia: Thu 7

Blindspotting (R) Regency: Fri-Sat 12:10, 2:35, 5, 7:30, 9:55; Sun-Thu 12:10, 2:35, 5, 7:30

Boundaries (R) Lark: Fri 12:10; Sun 8:30; Tue 6:45; Wed 10:20

The Catcher Was a Spy (R) Lark: Mon 2:10; Tue 4:40

Christopher Robin (PG) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 12:45, 3:30, 6:30, 9:15 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 6:50, 9:20; Sat-Sun 11, 1:40, 4:15, 6:50, 9:20 Northgate: Fri-Tue 11, 12:15, 1:35, 3, 4:15, 5:40, 7, 8:20, 9:45 Playhouse: Fri-Sat 12:30, 3:45, 6:30, 9:15; Sun-Wed 12:30, 3:45, 6:30

The Darkest Minds (PG-13) Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 6:30, 9; Sat-Sun 11, 1:30, 4, 6:30, 9 Northgate: Fri-Tue 11:20, 2, 4:35, 7:15, 9:50

Dark Money (Not Rated) Rafael: Fri-Sun 1; Mon-Wed 3:45, 8:30; Thu 3:45

Death of a Nation (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Tue 11:05, 1:55, 4:45, 7:30, 10:20

Don’t Worry, He Won’t Get Far on Foot (R) Rafael: 5:45 daily

Dreamgirls (PG-13) Lark: Sat 7:30 (includes a concert of live gospel music by Tony Saunders, Rusty Watson and The Traveling Love Center Choir)

Eighth Grade (R) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 12:05, 2:25, 4:45, 7:15, 9:45 Regency: Fri-Sat 12, 2:20, 4:40, 7:10, 9:30; Sun-Thu 12, 2:20, 4:40, 7:10 Playhouse: Fri-Sat 12, 2:30, 4:45, 7, 9:30; Sun-Wed 12, 2:30, 4:45, 7 Sequoia: Fri 4:40, 7:20, 9:50; Sat 2, 4:40, 7:20, 9:50; Sun 2, 4:40, 7:20; Mon, Wed-Thu 4:40, 7:20

The Emoji Movie (PG) Northgate: Tue 10am

First Reformed (R) Lark: Mon 10:20am; Thu 4:45

The Gardener (Not Rated) Lark: Fri 10:20am; Sun 3; Mon 4:10; Wed 2:30

Hearts Beat Loud (PG-13) Lark: Sun 4:50; Mon 8:15; Thu 10:20am

Hermitage Revealed (Not Rated) Lark: Sun 1

Hotel Transylvania 3: Summer Vacation (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Tue 11:55, 2:35, 5:05, 7:35

Incredibles 2 (PG) Northgate: Fri-Tue 10:10, 1:10, 4:10, 7:10, 10:10

Jason Mraz: Have It All (PG) Regency: Tue 7

Jurassic World: Fallen Kingdom (PG-13) Northgate: Fri-Tue 10:25, 1:25, 4:25, 7:25, 10:25

The King (Not Rated) Lark: Fri 2:15; Sat 10:30am; Tue 12:40; Wed 8:15

Leave No Trace (PG) Regency: Fri-Sat 11:30, 2:10, 4:50, 7:40, 10:15; Sun-Thu 11:30, 2:10, 4:50, 7:40

Love, Cecil (PG) Rafael: Mon-Wed 6

Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again (PG-13) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 1:25, 4:05, 6:45, 9:25 Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 7:30, 10:10; Sat-Sun 11:15, 2, 4:50, 7:30, 10:10 Northgate: Fri-Tue 11:40, 2:30, 5:10, 7:50, 10:30 Sequoia: Fri 4:20, 7, 9:40; Sat 1:40, 4:20, 7, 9:40; Sun 1:40, 4:20, 7; Mon, Wed 4:20, 7; Thu 4:20

McQueen (Not Rated) Regency: Fri-Sat 11, 1:40, 4:20, 7, 9:40; Sun-Thu 11, 1:40, 4:20, 7

The Meg (PG-13) Northgate: Thu 7, 9:50; 3D showtime at 8:25 Rowland: Thu 7, 9:50

Mission: Impossible—Fallout (PG-13) Fairfax: Fri-Wed 12, 3:25, 6:40, 9:55 Northgate: Fri-Tue 11:10, 12:20, 2:40, 3:45, 6:20, 7:20, 9:40, 10:35; 3D showtimes at 10, 1:30, 5, 8:30 Playhouse: Fri-Sat 12:15, 3:30, 6:45, 9:45; Sun-Wed 12:15, 3:30, 6:45

Mountain (Not Rated) Lark: Fri 6:40; Sun 6:50; Mon 12:30; Wed 4:20; Thu 9

Olompali: A Hippie Odyssey (Not Rated) Rafael: Thu 7 (filmmakers and narrator Peter Coyote in person)

Pope Francis: A Man of His Word (Not Rated) Lark: Fri 4:30; Sun 10:45am; Tue 2:45; Wed 12:30

RBG (PG) Rafael: 3:30, 8 daily

The Reluctant Radical (Not Rated) Lark: Thu 7

The Rider (R) Lark: Mon 6; Tue 8:50; Thu 12:15

Sailor Moon SuperS (PG) Regency: Sat 12:55; Mon 7

San Francisco Jewish Film Festival runs Friday through Sunday at the Rafael; call (415) 621-0523 or visit jfi.org for schedule

Segantini: Back to Nature (Not Rated) Lark: Wed 6:15

Slender Man (PG-13) Northgate: Thu 7, 9:30 Rowland: Thu 7, 9:40

Sorry to Bother You (R) Regency: Fri 11:10, 1:50, 4:30, 7:20, 10; Sat 4:30, 7:20, 10; Sun, Wed 11:10; Mon, Tue, Thu 11:10, 1:50, 4:30

The Spy Who Dumped Me (R) Larkspur Landing: Fri, Mon-Wed 7:20, 10:05; Sat-Sun 11:05, 1:50, 4:35, 7:20, 10:05 Northgate: Fri-Tue 10:45, 1:45, 4:55, 7:45, 10:35

Movie Reviews

BlacKkKlansman (2:15) Rollicking Spike Lee comedy tells the true story of a black Colorado cop who infiltrated the local chapter of the KKK; Topher Grace co-stars as David Duke.      

Blindspotting (1:35) Stylish and energetic human dramedy about two locals dealing with race, class and crime in a rapidly gentrifying Oakland.

Boundaries (1:44) Pot dealer Christopher Plummer sets off on a road trip with conventional daughter Vera Farmiga, reconnecting with old friends and secretly selling his cache at every pit stop.

The Catcher Was a Spy (1:38) True tale of renaissance man Moe Berg, the erudite, multilingual major league catcher who spied for the OSS during WWII; Paul Rudd stars.

Christopher Robin (1:44) When the fun-loving little boy of A. A. Milne’s stories grows up to be just another cranky adult, it’s up to Pooh, Eeyore and the rest of the gang to save his youthful spirit.

Dark Money (1:38) Eye-opening documentary about the heroic fight the state of Montana has been waging against corporate donations to political candidates since the Citizens United decision of 2010.

The Darkest Minds (1:45) A group of mysteriously super-powerful teenagers escape from a government lockup and resist the evil grownups who just don’t understand them.

Death of a Nation (1:49) Ultra-conservative commentator Dinesh D’Souza cooks up an alt-doc tracing the Democratic Party back to its slave-owning days and offering up Donald Trump as a modern-day Lincoln.

Dreamgirls (2:10) Jennifer Hudson, Jamie Foxx, Eddie Murphy and Beyoncé star in Bill Condon’s movie version of the hit Broadway musical about an up-and-coming girl group.

Eighth Grade (1:34) Coming-of-age comedy focuses on a supposedly unremarkable 13-year-old girl as she navigates the fraught final week of middle school.

The Emoji Movie (1:26) A smartphone’s hyper-emotional emoji yearns to have only one facial expression like everyone else; Sofia Vergara and Patrick Stewart vocalize.

Don’t Worry, He Won’t Get Far on Foot (1:53) Joaquin Phoenix stars as John Callahan, the real-life envelope-pushing paraplegic cartoonist; Gus Van Sant directs.

Hearts Beat Loud (1:37) Sweet-natured musical about an aging hipster who bonds with his teenage daughter when they start an indie rock band.

Jason Mraz: Have It All (1:30) Documentary features the pop-rock singer-songwriter playing tunes from his latest album and celebrating the joys of creative expression.

Leave No Trace (1:48) Poignant tale of a father and daughter’s idyllic life in the Oregon wilds and the encroaching urban Zeitgeist that threatens it.

Love, Cecil (1:39) Documentary examines the life and work of photographer, writer, painter and set designer Cecil Beaton through archival footage and diary excerpts read by Rupert Everett.

McQueen (1:51) Striking documentary portrait of Alexander McQueen, the tortured, controversial fashion designer who took his own life at age 40.

The Meg (1:54) This time Jason Statham takes on a prehistoric 75-foot shark that’s holding a crew of oceanographers hostage!

Mountain (1:14) Panoramic documentary celebrates the world’s most awesome alps and the climbers who scale their death-defying heights.

Olompali: A Hippie Odyssey (1:25) Documentary look at Rancho Olompali, a late-’60s north Marin hippie commune presided over by businessman-turned-dropout Don McCoy; Peter Coyote narrates.

Pope Francis: A Man of His Word (1:36) Wim Wenders’ affectionate portrait of the plainspoken pontiff highlights his concerns about wealth inequality, environmental issues and social justice.

The Reluctant Radical (1:17) Documentary follows environmental activist Ken Ward during a year of (occasionally illegal) direct actions against climate-changing malfeasances.

The Rider (1:43) Neorealist modern Western about an Oglala Lakota Sioux rodeo rider and his family and friends features nonprofessional actors and the epic setting of Pine Ridge Indian Reservation.

Sailor Moon SuperS (1:15) Hiroki Shibata anime in which a troupe of senshi brave a black hole to rescue a maiden from permanent dream-filled sleep.

San Francisco Jewish Film Festival The 38th annual fest celebrates the best in Jewish-themed documentaries, comedies, dramas and thrillers. Visit jfi.org for info and schedule.

Segantini: Back to Nature (1:20) Filippo Timi stars as the 19th-century Italian painter famed for his simple, instinctual evocations of the natural world.

Slender Man (1:45) The local legend of a tall, skinny serial killer inspires a group of teenagers to debunk the myth—then one of them goes missing.

Sorry to Bother You (1:45) Boots Riley absurdist fantasy satire about an Oakland telemarketer striving his way through a netherworld of big-tech billionaires and anti-Zeitgeist revolutionaries.

The Spy Who Dumped Me (1:57) Action comedy stars Mila Kunis and Kate McKinnon as two innocents thrust into international intrigue by a connected ex; Gillian Anderson co-stars.

Teen Titans GO! to the Movies (1:24) The satirical kids’ TV cartoon series hits the big screen with its brash, goofy humor intact, musical numbers and all.

Letters to the Editor

Local Hero

In a disparaging era of walls, kids legally separated from their parents, social injustice and the ever-present racial inequality, it is a profound pleasure to realize there are still those whose compassion overrides any personal, monetary or political gain. Marin County’s own Marv Zauderer, CEO of ExtraFood, is setting an example for all to follow by providing much-needed food for the county’s underserved (Heroes & Zeroes, June 27). Mr. Zauderer points out that one in five Marin residents are food-insecure, and has devoted his life to addressing this shameful situation in one of the most expensive areas of the world to reside. Truest of bona fide heroes and yet another reason that makes Marin County and the Bay Area one of the most outstanding places in the entire world.

Dennis Kostecki

Sausalito

Clear-Eyed

As someone who has read more than my fair share of articles about blockchain, bitcoin and other crypto currencies, I have to say this is one if the most clear-eyed and thoughtfully descriptive pieces I’ve ever read on the subject (“Blockchain Gains,” July 25). Kudos to Mr. Mackowiak for avoiding the hype (and the hate), or getting tangled up in a very complex subject.

Jeff Carino

Via PacificSun.com

Heroes & Zeroes

 
Hero
Despite Trump’s efforts to roll back clean-air regulations, Marin is going the extra mile to decrease greenhouse gas emissions from cars. The county will add 41 electric vehicle (EV) charging stations to the Civic Center in San Rafael by September. The public will have use of 31 of them; the remaining stations are for the county vehicle fleet of 80 hybrids and eight EVs. This is the latest step in a commitment to climate action planning, which has already reduced community greenhouse gas emissions substantially below 1990 levels. In fact, Marin’s reduction target is greater than those set by the state, and we hit our initial mark years ahead of plan. The new goal is to cut emissions to 30 percent below 1990 levels by 2020. Taxpayers needn’t worry about the $185,000 expense for the stations. The county secured a $65,000 grant from the Bay Area Air Quality Management District, and will pursue additional grants.
Zero
Downtown Sausalito recently became the backdrop to a viral video showing a clothing store owner booting a black family out of his shop. Anthony O’Neill, his wife, two daughters and in-laws were ousted from Quest Casuals on Bridgeway while trying on clothing and hats last Sunday. Shop proprietor Hooshang Seda called the police after O’Neill asked for an explanation. Some of the scene played out on a cell phone video, which has racked up more than 262,000 views on O’Neill’s Facebook page. “I am asking you to leave because I refuse to do business with you,” Seda says on the video. Seda, in a written response to KGO-TV, denies the ousting had anything to do with race and says the girls were trying on expensive adult vests that dragged on the floor. Before Yelp blanked out Quest Casual’s page due to the onslaught of negative comments from this incident, we saw a review describing a disturbing episode involving a man who wears XL clothing. To see Seda’s behavior, check out O’Neill’s video at youtu.be/3LthUyFRQwI.
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Heroes & Zeroes

 

Hero

Despite Trump’s efforts to roll back clean-air regulations, Marin is going the extra mile to decrease greenhouse gas emissions from cars. The county will add 41 electric vehicle (EV) charging stations to the Civic Center in San Rafael by September. The public will have use of 31 of them; the remaining stations are for the county vehicle fleet of 80 hybrids and eight EVs. This is the latest step in a commitment to climate action planning, which has already reduced community greenhouse gas emissions substantially below 1990 levels. In fact, Marin’s reduction target is greater than those set by the state, and we hit our initial mark years ahead of plan. The new goal is to cut emissions to 30 percent below 1990 levels by 2020. Taxpayers needn’t worry about the $185,000 expense for the stations. The county secured a $65,000 grant from the Bay Area Air Quality Management District, and will pursue additional grants.

Zero

Downtown Sausalito recently became the backdrop to a viral video showing a clothing store owner booting a black family out of his shop. Anthony O’Neill, his wife, two daughters and in-laws were ousted from Quest Casuals on Bridgeway while trying on clothing and hats last Sunday. Shop proprietor Hooshang Seda called the police after O’Neill asked for an explanation. Some of the scene played out on a cell phone video, which has racked up more than 262,000 views on O’Neill’s Facebook page. “I am asking you to leave because I refuse to do business with you,” Seda says on the video. Seda, in a written response to KGO-TV, denies the ousting had anything to do with race and says the girls were trying on expensive adult vests that dragged on the floor. Before Yelp blanked out Quest Casual’s page due to the onslaught of negative comments from this incident, we saw a review describing a disturbing episode involving a man who wears XL clothing. To see Seda’s behavior, check out O’Neill’s video at youtu.be/3LthUyFRQwI.

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Film: I Spy . . .

With the Honoré de Balzac/ball-sack joke that includes an actual ball sack dangled on the camera, and with one poop joke every 10 minutes, the script of The Spy Who Dumped Me has certain tonal problems.

Director and co-scriptwriter Susanna Fogel uses unusually harsh violence and crudeness that seems to be a reach-out to the male audience who might not go see a female buddy movie. It’s like the diarrhea sequence in Bridesmaids, material insisted on by the male producers.

Audrey (Mila Kunas) is ditched via text by her boyfriend, Drew, right before her birthday. Her BFF, would-be actress Morgan (Kate McKinnon), coaxes Audrey into having a bonfire of the possessions Drew left behind—everything from his used underwear to his second-place fantasy football league trophy, the film’s MacGuffin.

Audrey’s hostile texts bring Drew (Justin Theroux) back to L.A. from the field, where he’d been chased by assassins. Gunmen catch up with him, and at Drew’s dying request, Audrey and Morgan drop everything and take the trophy from LAX to Vienna, with some interference by the MI6 agent Sebastian (male-modelish Sam Heughan) and his complaining partner (Hasan Minhaj).

McKinnon’s great work on SNL doesn’t spare her from having to search for a way to play Morgan. She has keen off-kilter lines every now and then, like her story of how she’d failed an audition playing a Ukrainian farmer in a Geico ad because “I was too authentic.” McKinnon’s quite a weirdette, executing a big Three Musketeers–style bow complete with a whirl of her hand. When she goes for a disguise, she picks a very bad one—a Cockney taxi driver.

As for Kunis, of the heavy eyelids and heavier scowl—she’s a little much. Gowned up for the final, glamorous part of the assignment, she looks formidable, but Kunis is not an actress who seems patient enough or light enough for comedy.

The Spy Who Dumped Me isn’t aiming for depth, but there are one too many room-clearing fight scenes, like the one in Vienna where someone gets his face pushed into a boiling cauldron of soup. Compared to 2015’s Spy, which did such a sterling job of satirizing the newer Bonds, this comedy plays as if there were too many cooks, and other times like there wasn’t enough cooking.

‘The Spy Who Dumped Me’ is playing in wide release in the North Bay.

Dining: Time of Plenty

With stone fruit, melons and ears of corn filling up market stalls and produce sections, there is no doubt it’s summertime in the North Bay. Here are a few ways to take full advantage of the luscious tastes of the season and beyond.

For those old enough to remember some favorite restaurants in San Francisco during the dotcom bubble, Gordon’s House of Fine Eats in the SoMa/Mission neighborhood (previously referred to as the “Multimedia Gulch”) tops many a list. Though it’s long gone and founder Gordon Drysdale has moved on to Pizza Antica, Sweetwater and Scoma’s, he will be sharing his considerable talents with lucky guests in the Key Room on Thursday, Aug. 9, at 6:30pm.

Check out the menu he has planned: spicy, chilled beet soup with lemongrass, red curry and coconut cream; hot-smoked New Zealand–farmed king salmon with nectarines, crispy polenta, caramelized onions and aged balsamic; and warm bread and butter pudding, with white chocolate crème anglaise and crispy macadamia nuts. The cost is $60. Learn more here: www.cookingschoolsofamerica.com/freshstartscookingschool.

For apple lovers, there are a couple of opportunities in the North Bay that show off the versatility of this beloved fruit. At Apple Garden Farm in Tomales, the only producer of hard cider in Marin County, owners Jan and Louis Lee conduct weekend tours of their apple orchard followed by an organic hard-cider tasting. The cost is $5 per couple. Admission costs are waived if cider is purchased. Visit applegardenfarm.com for more information.

Once known as the Gravenstein Apple Capital of the World, Sebastopol still celebrates its famous heirloom apples. Now in its 45th year, the Gravenstein Apple Fair, running Aug. 11–12 at Ragle Ranch Park in Sebastopol, offers a weekend of live music, local food, wine and cider. Check it out at gravensteinapplefair.com.

For food-loving out-of-town guests, take them on a Flavors of West Marin Tour, where everything from oysters, cheese, bread and mead are on full display. Tours are available Thursdays and Fridays from 10am to 3pm, and Saturdays and Sundays from 10:30am to 3:30pm. The cost is $195 per person. Learn more at foodandfarmtours.com.

Another quintessential Marin summer excursion before the fog begins to roll in includes lunch or dinner at Sausalito’s Bar Bocce. Snag an outdoor table, get in line for a bocce ball court and order a crisp glass of rosé. Sourdough crust pizzas, seating a stone’s throw from the water’s edge and a chill Sausalito vibe make this one of Marin’s very best. Check it out at barbocce.com.

Spotlight on San Rafael: Tree House and Cafe

 

For parents of toddlers, everyday reality can sometimes seem stripped of aesthetic pleasures. Bluntly colorful playgrounds and strikingly color-blocked Gymborees are the norm, while upscale coffee shops and other adult zones contain little to entertain easily bored offspring. Leave it to a Scandinavian-Japanese husband-and-wife duo to break the mold with a new space that singlehandedly pleases the design-loving mom, the carbs-craving dad and the adventure-seeking child.

Fox & Kit, the new coffee-shop-meets-playground in downtown San Rafael, opened last month and has quickly become a local favorite. The space greets the visitor with a plush green sofa, brass accents and white marble. The neatly arranged fashion magazines on the communal tables disclose nothing of the cafe’s second goal, which is to provide a plush play space for kids. But behind glass doors, another universe reveals itself: fake grass meadows, soft mountains, felt rocks, wood fortresses and endless nooks and hills for rolling, jumping and safely tumbling await young children.

On a recent visit, six-year-olds dressed in princess gowns provided by the cafe, injected the carefully planned space with happy chaos. As they were watched by a team of teenage aids, parents sipped lattes and nibbled on buttery kouign-amann pastries.

“When our son, who is now eight, was little, we wanted a place that he was happy going to and that we were equally happy going to,” says Devin Westberg, co-owner of Fox & Kit with his wife, Kyoko. “Since great coffee shops and coffeehouses are some of our favorite places to go, it only made sense to create a coffeehouse with a playground.”

Before opening Fox & Kit, the duo operated a small interior-design firm, specializing in renovations, vacation homes and real estate staging. Devin Westberg is of Swedish and Norwegian descent and grew up in Healdsburg. Kyoko grew up in Japan and Canada. The two brought their tastes and design sensibilities to the table to create the business.

Westberg has divided the large play area into three spaces. “The fox den was inspired by a Verner Panton, a Danish architect from the ’60s,” he says, referring to the low, mysteriously lit cave carved into a hill. “He created otherworldly spaces and, in particular, large furniture pieces that slide together to create funky psychedelic cavelike structures to lounge in.”

Westberg says the tree-house tower and “maze wall,” complete with costume room and reading nook, were inspired by “nature, different art museums around the world, growing up building forts and tree houses, as well as heavy influences from Japanese and Scandinavian modern design, which reflects both of our heritages.”

The couple used natural materials and traditional carpentry throughout. “The fox den was the most intense,” Westberg says, “as it required a huge CNC machine to cut out over 60 wooden ribs and splitting them, to make up a giant wooden puzzle that had to be carefully organized, routed and sanded, and fit together in a precise order.”

Chances are, the kids who’ll excitedly roam the space and slide down the hills and ropes won’t care about the details. The playtime fee is $15 for two-and-a-half hours. The parents, busy documenting the welcoming cafe on social media and catching up on adult news, might not dwell on them either. But nevertheless, Fox & Kit is destined to be a magnet for Marin County families.

Fox and Kit, 1031 C St., San Rafael. 415.991.5061.

Advice Goddess

 

Q: I’m a 31-year-old guy who got really hurt after a relationship ended a few years back. Now I just don’t date women who I’ll ever really care about because I don’t ever want to feel how I felt when my previous relationship ended. My friends say I’m being a coward and missing out, but, hey, I’m not depressed over any chicks. I think I’m being smart in protecting myself. Maybe more people should take this approach.—Comfortably Numb

A: It’s possible that you’re way more emotionally sensitive than most people, to the point where a loss that others would eventually recover from hits you like a never-ending colonoscopy. Even if you are super-sensitive, avoiding the pain comes at a substantial price: living a gray goulash of a life, spending every day with some uninspiring somebody you don’t really care about. But consider that we evolved to be resilient—to heal from emotional injuries as we do physical ones. However, in order for you to do this and to see that you might actually be able to stand the pain of loss, you need to view resilience not as some mysterious emotional gift but as a practice.

Resilience comes out of what clinical psychologist Salvatore R. Maddi calls “hardiness.” He writes that “hardiness . . . provides the courage and motivation to do the hard, strategic work of turning stressful circumstances from potential disasters into growth opportunities.” His research finds that hardiness is made up of three “interrelated attitudes,” which he calls the three c’s: commitment, control, and challenge.

Commitment is the desire to engage with people and life instead of pulling away and isolating yourself. Control is the motivation to take action to improve your life “rather than sinking into passivity and powerlessness.” Challenge is the willingness to face the stress life throws at you and use it as a learning experience “rather than playing it safe by avoiding uncertainties and potential threats.”

These attitudes might not come naturally to you. But you can choose to take them up, same as you might other “unnatural practices,” like monogamy and wearing deodorant. Understanding that there are steps you can take to recover from heartbreak might give you the courage to go for a woman you really love.

Q: I’m a straight 36-year-old woman, and I recently lost a lot of weight. My doctor’s happy. My girlfriends think I look great. They’re all, “How’d you do it? You look like a model!” However, my male friends think I’m too skinny now. Is there a big difference in what the sexes consider a good body?—Slim

A: Though women assume that men think the ideal female body shape is modeliciously skinny, consider that construction workers rarely yell out, “Hey, Hot Stuff! Great set of ribs!”

In studies exploring men and women’s ideas of the ideal female body weight, women consistently “perceive men as being attracted to thinner female figures than is true in reality,” writes social psychologist Viren Swami. And it isn’t just North American men who like fleshier women. Swami ran a massive survey of 7,434 men and women in 26 countries across 10 world regions, and found that “men across all world regions except East Asia selected a significantly heavier figure as being most physically attractive compared to what women believed was most attractive to men.”

Swami and his colleagues speculate that “women exposed to magazines marketed to women may form skewed perceptions of what body types are most appealing to men.” But don’t despair. Swami’s study and others measure the preferences of the “average” man. There is no such person. Or, as an epidemiologist friend of mine often reminds me, there are “individual differences,” meaning individuals’ preferences vary. In other words, there are men out there who will be seriously into a woman like you, a woman who can do amazing feats in the bedroom, like removing a pair of skinny jeans without calling 911 and asking for firemen to come over with the Jaws of Life.

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Cover Story: A Positive Spin

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First it was being called a revival; now it’s being hailed as a renaissance. Vinyl albums, once on the verge of obsolescence, just marked their 12th year in a row of growing sales numbers, with Nielsen Music reporting 14,320,000 records sold in 2017, the highest number since the company started tracking vinyl sales back in 1991. In fact, 2017 also marks the first year since 2011 that physical album sales topped digital downloads.

It’s a staggering comeback for a medium that was all but dead 15 years ago when the internet opened the floodgates of digital music streaming, downloading and pirating. That came after the advent of the vinyl-killing CD in the 1980s.

How did this resurgence come about? More new artists are releasing their music on vinyl, and classic records are getting deluxe reissues, like the Beatles’ Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band, 2017’s No. 1 selling vinyl record. Add to that, major retailers like Urban Outfitters and Barnes & Noble have recently started racking vinyl in their stores.

Then there’s the renewed interest in the independent record store that’s grown since Record Store Day began 10 years ago, an annual event that celebrates the country’s nearly 1,400 indie record retailers as cultural hubs.

In the North Bay, the local record store lives on in shops like Santa Rosa’s Last Record Store, which has been operating since 1983, and San Rafael’s Red Devil Records, which is celebrating its 20th anniversary.

The record-buying bug bit Barry Lazarus as a teenager driving around to record stores in his native Los Angeles, and he’s been a music fanatic ever since. Moving to the Bay Area at 19, he’s lived in the region for 40 years, and he just marked 20 years of owning and running Red Devil Records.

“I lived in San Francisco back when it was a lot rougher than it is now, and I had a stressful job, and I was trying to think of what would be the opposite of that,” Lazarus says. “I decided opening a record store in the North Bay would be the opposite of having a stressful job.”

Originally, Lazarus opened Red Devil Records in downtown Petaluma in 1998, at 170 Kentucky St. near Copperfield’s Books. The store spent six years in Petaluma, until a nearby restaurant fire and long-running construction basically halted all foot traffic at the same time digital music sales were killing the record industry. Once the store’s lease ran out, Lazarus moved to downtown San Rafael.

“San Rafael has more of an arts and music downtown vibe than I knew about,” Lazarus says. “I just had a feeling it would be a good place, and I happened to find a fantastic location.”

Now located at 894 Fourth St. in San Rafael, in the heart of the city’s hub of venues and shops, Red Devil is thriving thanks to the local community of music lovers and collectors. For the store’s 20th anniversary, San Rafael mayor Gary Phillips even issued an official proclamation praising the store as a valuable business and declaring Lazarus a steward of downtown San Rafael.

Red Devil Records has earned a reputation as the go-to source for serious, old-school LP enthusiasts. “The number one advantage of having the store here is the quality of used records brought in,” Lazarus says. “Because Marin County has such a rich musical history, there are just endless record collectors who’ve pretty much been supplying my store with used records, and the flow doesn’t stop.”

Adorning the store’s wall of fame is a massive assortment of original pressings and hard-to-find LPs from bygone eras, and the store’s social media shows off an ongoing Record of the Day series that includes gems like Jeff Beck’s Beck-Ola 1969 original pressing in mint condition, or Nirvana’s “Smells Like Teen Spirit” gold-colored, 12-inch vinyl promotional pressing. Lazarus says he gets a lot of people coming up from San Francisco or the East Bay to get their hands on these albums. “I’m really lucky to get a lot of rare records here,” he says. “That’s what we are known for.”

Lazarus sums up vinyl’s popularity in two ways: it sounds better and it looks better. From the unmistakably warm real-live analog sound of the record, to the engaging cover art, Lazarus finds that people love to have a shelf of records in their home to admire and enjoy, and it’s not just collectors. “The age range of customers in my store is from 10 to 80 years old,” he says.

Doug Jayne already had a long history of working in corporate record shops like Music Plus in 1970s Southern California, where he was raised, but he was making a living as a mechanic when he relocated to the North Bay.

“I got sick of L.A., and I ditched with a girl I worked with and we moved up here so she could go to Sonoma State in 1979,” Jayne says. “I was living in Santa Rosa and I found myself driving down to Cotati and Petaluma to buy records, because all the stores in Santa Rosa were lame—Record Factory, Rainbow Records, you know.”

Jayne so badly wanted Santa Rosa to have a cool record store, he decided to get into the business again and called up his old friend, Hoyt Wilhelm, whom he had worked with at a store in Azusa, Calif. (“A to Z in the USA,” remembers Jayne) and who was working as a teacher in Santa Cruz at the time. Jayne convinced Wilhelm to move up to Sonoma County, where they tried to buy Prez Records in Santa Rosa’s Railroad Square. When the owner reneged, the pair found a space at 739 Fourth St., a few doors down from where the Russian River Brewing Company sits today, and opened the Last Record Store in 1983.

These days, the store’s name seems to carry a prophetic connotation, as the Last Record Store has long outlasted corporate retailers like the Wherehouse and Sam Goody, though the name was inspired by the band Little Feat’s 1975 release, The Last Record Album.

That album also boasts a mural on its cover that prominently features a jackalope, the mythical half-rabbit, half-antelope that is the Last Record Store’s official mascot. The logo of the jackalope wearing sunglasses that adorns the store’s walls and merchandise was designed and drawn by artist Rick Griffin, who created several iconic psychedelic posters and album covers for the Grateful Dead.

“We never thought that people would walk by and go, ‘The Last Record Store—you truly are, aren’t you?’” Jayne says. “We never thought we’d be the last dudes standing.”

For two decades, the Last Record Store was a focal point of Santa Rosa’s downtown scene, sandwiched between the Old Vic pub and popular magazine and periodicals purveyor Sawyer’s News.

After 20 years on Fourth Street, the Last Record Store moved to its current location at 1899 Mendocino Ave., next door to Community Market, in 2003. Despite several lean years during the early 21st century’s digital revolution, the store has seen an uptick in business, especially in new and used vinyl sales, that matches the national trends.

“Our business really suffered for a couple years, but finally people started buying stuff again,” Jayne says. “It’s been pretty good for the last 15 years, really, and the thing with vinyl [sales] is just nuts. I have no real answer for that.”

Jayne may not claim to have answers, but he has a perfect analogy. “There’s a bit of what I would call the PBR angle. It’s cool to like a cheap beer, and people love coming into the record store and finding a cheap record,” Jayne says. “And we are also able to appeal to people who like the high-end stuff. We’re selling $30, 180-gram vinyl albums that are more like a fine wine. So we’re like a bar that sells to cheap drunks and to wine enthusiasts, musically. And we have people that come in all the time, multiple times a week, so there’s a collector angle to it. God bless those people.”

Red Devil Records, 894 Fourth St., San Rafael. Monday–Friday, 11am–7pm; Saturday–Sunday, 11am–6pm. 415.457.8999.

The Last Record Store, 1899-A Mendocino Ave., Santa Rosa. Monday–Friday, 10am–8pm; Saturday, 10am–6pm; Sunday, noon–5pm. 707.525.1963.

 

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