Food & Drink: Classic Cavallo

By Tanya Henry

One of the many perks of living in Marin is the fact that communing with nature is easy. Whether it’s hiking in the Marin Headlands, running the Dipsea Trail, or camping at Samuel P. Taylor State Park, there are countless ways for us to become one with the outdoors. Many of these favorite spots fall under the jurisdiction of the Golden Gate National Recreational Area (GGNRA), which encompasses more than 30 national parks. Eight years ago, the GGNRA also brought Marin its first luxury resort.

Just like so many things in this county, Cavallo Point Lodge is not your typical resort. Situated at the foot of the Golden Gate Bridge in Sausalito’s Fort Baker, the one-time military base now boasts an upscale restaurant, bar, wellness spa, lodging and one of the most charming cooking schools in the Bay Area.

Perhaps the thing that I like most about Cavallo is that it offers so many options. I can order a glass of wine from Farley’s impressive list (their cellar boasts 2,000 choices) and plop down in an overstuffed chair, or take in the vistas from the chilly outdoor terrace (blankets are provided). Lodging can be contemporary/modern or refurbished turn-of-the-century officer’s barracks. Murray Circle restaurant offers up an uber seasonal California menu with plenty of charcuterie options that chef Justin Everett prepares downstairs in his own makeshift curing chamber. And now, just in time for spring, the lodge is holding its second annual Lexus Culinary Classic—a three-day extravaganza featuring cooking classes, celebrity chefs, premier wine tasting and more.

On Friday, March 11, the celebration kicks off with an opening reception and multi-course dinner prepared by four different chefs, including the James Beard award-winning Michelle Bernstein from Miami, Post Ranch Inn’s John Cox, Boston’s Mauricio Luna (XV Beacon) and the host, Cavallo’s own Justin Everett.

A master mixologist will lead guests through a re-crafting of classic cocktails, and a hands-on cooking class will be led by visiting chefs and the cooking school’s culinary director, Jayne Reichert. Of course the class will culminate in a four-course dinner, prepared by the guests, for everyone to enjoy.

A sparkling wine pairing demo and truffle dinner are also in the mix, and the event wraps with a Grand Tasting on Sunday, March 13 from 12pm to 3pm. Twenty wineries from Marin, Sonoma and Napa, along with the partnering chefs will likely offer plenty of locally inspired nibbles and sips.

Though this event will draw a mixed, food-loving crowd, the lodge’s national park ethos keeps Cavallo Point real and continues to make it an infinitely appealing option—right here in our own backyard.

2016 Lexus Culinary Classic, March 11-13, Cavallo Point Lodge, 601 Murray Circle, Fort Baker, Sausalito; lexusculinaryclassic.com.

Upfront: Cannabis inc.

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By Caitlin Yoshiko Kandil

For years, David Hua encountered problems when he ordered medical marijuana deliveries. Online menus were often outdated. Ordering over the phone took forever. Sending requests by email risked compromising private data. And delivery dudes were notoriously unreliable.

“Sometimes it took an hour, sometimes longer, sometimes shorter, but you never really know,” he says. “The larger windows made it difficult to schedule your day. But since you’re ordering medicine, you’d wait just like you’d wait for the Comcast guy.”

Hua, who has used cannabis for the past five years to relieve chronic neck and shoulder pain, knew there must be a way to improve service, especially in the Bay Area, where one can order everything from takeout to manicures on demand.

So in 2014 Hua launched Meadow, a one-hour delivery service for more than 30 Bay Area pot clubs. Customers order by smartphones and get estimated delivery times with real-time tracking updates. Online menus update inventory. Patient information is stored on HIPAA-compliant servers. Meadow also offers video chats with doctors who can prescribe cannabis, and software to help collectives more effectively.

Known as the “Uber for medical marijuana,” Meadow became the first pot-related startup to land funding from the Mountain View-based seed accelerator Y Combinator. Meadow has joined a burgeoning medical marijuana industry, which has been dubbed the “green rush” but might as well be the modern-day gold rush, given its growth and profitability.

“Just as the gold rush once needed tools such as pick axes, shovels and jeans, now the tools are online ordering, compliance, streamlining their operations and making sure best practices are followed,” Hua says.

Legal cannabis sales topped $5 billion in 2015, according to industry research firm ArcView Group, and the cannabis sector is expected to reach $6.7 billion this year. By 2020, the legal cannabis market could reach nearly $22 billion in sales.

“In Silicon Valley, entrepreneurs and investors are always looking for the next thing that technology can disrupt, the next marketplace where there’s an incredible growth curve that they can participate in,” ArcView CEO Troy Dayton says.

“In that way, the cannabis industry is seen by many as the next great American industry.”

But unlike other industries, Dayton notes, cannabis will be driven less by technological innovation or customer taste than by changes in public policy. In 1996, California became the first state in the country to legalize medical marijuana.

Since then, 24 states as well as Washington, D.C. have decriminalized the drug to varying extents. California has yet to legalize general adult use—a ballot initiative is in the works after a 2010 effort fell 7 percent short. Meanwhile, 21-and-over adult use is now legal in Washington, Colorado, Alaska, Oregon and the District of Columbia.

The nation’s shift towards legalization—58 percent of Americans now support it, according to Gallup—has opened the doors to a growing cannabis industry in California. Governor Jerry Brown signed off on a slew of new regulations surrounding medical marijuana last fall, giving businesses and buyers more clarity on how to operate above board.

“Because of this shift,” Dayton says, “the best minds of our generation are just finally starting to put their attention on this space.”

Hua agrees: “If we had tried to do this five years ago, I don’t think the market would have been there because people’s risk appetite and exposure weren’t there.”

Cannabis-related startups now include a variety of consumer devices, delivery services, social media, software products and agricultural innovations. Loto Labs, based in Redwood City, developed Evoke, an induction-powered vaporizer that allows users to customize heat and dosage settings on a built-in control panel or smartphone app.

“You’re able to see how much you’re puffing, just like your Fitbit tells you how many steps you’ve climbed,” says Neeraj Bhardwaj, president of Loto Labs. “If you have cancer and you’re trying to dose correctly, or if you’re trying to quit smoking, you can track your progress.”

San Francisco-based HelloMD offers telehealth services that connect patients to cannabis-friendly doctors.

“Going to a regular healthcare provider for cannabis is problematic for most people,” says company founder Mark Hadfield. “Your traditional doctor is going to say, ‘I don’t feel comfortable, I haven’t seen enough studies, or I don’t know how to provide a recommendation.’”

HelloMD also allows patients to order medical marijuana and have it delivered.

“This experience means that patients who have never participated in cannabis are more willing to,” Hadfield says. “We’re seeing the demographic shifting, from young people who are recreationally oriented to an older demographic with more women, who are using cannabis for health and wellness. These people are coming into the market for the first time because of the ease and convenience of the service and lack of stigma. The technology means that they can now participate.”

Even PayPal co-founder Peter Thiel has put his stamp on cannabis startups. Last year his investment firm, Founders Fund, joined a $75 million investment for Privateer Holdings, a private equity firm that invests in the medical marijuana industry.

But not everyone is seeing green. David Welch, founding partner of DR Welch Attorneys at Law, which specializes in the business aspects of the medical marijuana industry, expresses skepticism toward the so-called modern-day gold rush.

“There’s a lot of fool’s gold out there,” he says. “You’ll become a millionaire a lot faster on Wall Street than buying and selling marijuana.”

Silicon Valley has started to flex its power beyond investments, though; it’s also throwing weight behind policy reforms. In January, Sean Parker, of Napster and Facebook fame, announced that he was donating $250,000 to support a legalization initiative. The Adult Use of Marijuana Act is slated to appear on California ballots this fall.

While the proposal has received support from groups such as the Drug Policy Alliance, the Marijuana Policy Project of California and the NAACP, groups such as the California Growers Association and ReformCA.org feel extensive regulations will hurt small growers.

“It’s disappointing to see Sean Parker attempting to restrict it to where, logistically, only people who have a great deal of money and influence can participate in the industry going forward,” says Mickey Martin, director of ReformCA.org. “It creates a lot of red tape and additional cost that keep the price of cannabis high and makes it difficult for the normal mom and pop business to operate under that regime.”

Welch agrees, adding that the transformation of the marijuana industry has created tensions between new businesses and longtime players.

“You see a lot of fear on behalf of the old guard, that they’re going to lose their livelihood to people who have less experience but a lot more money,” he says.

But ArcView’s Dayton argues this isn’t the case. “The best teams,” he says, “are always a mixture of longtime cannabis talent with longtime business talent.”

Feature: We all scream

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By Charlie Swanson

If Philip Kim has his way, Santa Rosa will become the Sundance of horror and genre films. The senior manager of Famous Monsters of Filmland magazine and longtime Sonoma County resident is teaming with Neil Pearlmutter, vice president of the Santa Rosa Entertainment Group, to present the inaugural Silver Scream Film & Comic Festival on March 4–6 at the Roxy Stadium 14 theater in downtown Santa Rosa. The three-day event will feature special Hollywood guests like director John Landis alongside up-and-coming independent genre filmmakers and comic-book creators.

Born in South Korea, Kim emigrated to the United States with his family at age six and grew up in San Rafael. “I remember one of the first things I saw on TV was Twilight Zone, and I was enthralled,” Kim says. “I was learning English while I was watching it, but the concepts were mind-blowing.”

Kim was also obsessed with comic books as a kid, drawing his own and writing fantastical stories. He moved to Sonoma County to attend Sonoma State University, earning an economics degree and working as a real estate developer until his mid-30s. That’s when he discovered that the classic genre-film magazine Famous Monsters of Filmland was up for auction in 2007.

“I grew up on the magazine and was amazed that it was available, so I grabbed it,” Kim says.

Launching Famous Monsters as a website first, Kim eventually got into the print game in 2010, reviving the magazine as a bimonthly publication. Today, Famous Monsters is the bestselling magazine of its kind. Kim also steers the comic-book division of Famous Monsters, producing horror and genre comics under the American Gothic Press label. He has found additional success in the film and comic-book convention scene.

After splitting time for the past five years between Sonoma County and Los Angeles, where the magazine’s office resides, Kim is bringing the monsters to the North Bay with the Silver Scream Festival.

“I live in Santa Rosa, and I never thought that there was a deep enough market in Sonoma County or Northern California for what I do,” Kim says. “But then I started seeing toy conventions come up and the Roxy’s CULT series, and there is a very robust fan base here.”

The CULT Film Series is Neil Pearlmutter’s brainchild, a semi-weekly double feature of vintage horror and sci-fi films, largely from the 1970s and ’80s. “I see it as a way to bring this community together by doing something a little different,” says Pearlmutter.

He’s also responsible for several special guest screenings that have brought genre film stars like William Katt (Carrie, The Greatest American Hero) and Barbara Crampton (Re-Animator) to Santa Rosa.

Now Kim and Pearlmutter, friends for years, are teaming up to present the Silver Scream Festival, offering a slew of classic Hollywood horror films and new features from underground filmmakers over three packed days of screenings, signings and panels.

Headlining the event are director John Landis, special effects wizard Rick Baker and actor David Naughton, all of whom will be on hand on Saturday, March 5 for a 35th anniversary screening of Landis’ 1981 film An American Werewolf in London.

Landis is best known for his comedies, helming classics like The Blues Brothers and Animal House, though his foray into horror is today considered a landmark in the genre.

An American Werewolf in London updates the classic Universal Pictures monster to a modern-day setting. In a time before computer-based special effects, Baker transformed lead actor Naughton from a goofy American on vacation into a realistic lycanthrope that preyed on unsuspecting Londoners. Baker took home the Oscar for best makeup that year, and his work has long been held as the standard for such effects.

“It’s fascinating to hear these guys [Baker and Landis] talk about what they went through to create these visual effects,” Kim says. “They just loved the genre, and it shows.”

Kim says that Baker’s work was the inspiration for a lot of contemporary horror films. “They did something with what was already there, and took it to a point where it completely transformed the way Hollywood makes films,” he says.

The Silver Scream Festival is also honoring another genre-changing force in filmmaking, presenting a tribute to the late Wes Craven with screenings of his films and appearances by three of Craven’s closest colleagues. Actors Robert Englund and Heather Langenkamp and producer Marianne Maddalena will accompany screenings of Craven’s A Nightmare on Elm Street and New Nightmare on Friday, March 4, and Saturday, March 5.

Englund is best known as Craven’s most famous monster, Freddy Krueger, and with more than 150 acting credits to his name, he is still very busy. Yet Kim says that he and Langenkamp immediately signed on for the event when they heard about the tribute.

“They just said, ‘Tell us where it is,’” Kim says. “Robert especially wanted to honor Wes.”

Englund, Langenkamp and Maddalena will also speak on panels and take audience questions about Craven’s lasting legacy in film, though the topic of Craven’s famously bitter feud with the Santa Rosa school board over the making of his 1996 teen-slasher hit Scream can probably be skipped.

For those who don’t remember, Craven wanted to film several scenes at Santa Rosa High School, and reportedly reached a verbal agreement with the school’s principal to do so. Yet the school board denied him access days before filming was to begin due to concerned parents and press who criticised the film’s violent nature. Though much of Scream was shot in and around Sonoma County, the film’s end credits still say, “No thanks whatsoever to the Santa Rosa City School District Governing Board.”

Silver Scream also honors the birth of the horror movie with special guest Bela Lugosi, Jr., son of the original Dracula and steward of his father’s legacy. Lugosi, Jr. will speak on Saturday, March 5, after an afternoon of screening several of his father’s films, including Dracula.

“I don’t know if people know this, but Lugosi was a stage actor before he was a film actor,” Kim says. Lugosi originally played Dracula onstage, where Carl Laemmle, Jr., head of Universal Pictures, discovered him in 1931 and adapted the stage show into a film.

Dracula was the first talking horror film in Hollywood history. It was such a huge hit that many film historians credit it, and other Universal horror films like Frankenstein, with saving the studio.

“The Universal monsters are as classic as it gets, they started it all, and Bela Lugosi is probably one of the most famous names in early Hollywood,” Pearlmutter says. “Having his son here to talk about what his father accomplished in this genre will be amazing. And, honestly, I think it lends credibility to this festival for people who think horror is a ‘lesser’ genre. I think everyone respects what Bela Lugosi did for cinema. I hope it lets people understand horror, where it started, where it is now and what we are celebrating.”

Other guest appearances include filmmakers like ’80s grindhouse auteur William Lustig, who will be showing his 1988 horror-action classic Maniac Cop, and modern horror director Jessica Cameron, whose 2015 film Mania, which will also be screening, has already won top honors at several underground film festivals. Both screenings happen on Sunday, March 6.

Aside from the special guests, the festival also includes an awards-based film competition with categories ranging from feature-length and short films, screenplays and concept art, to off-the-wall categories like “Best Love Scene Amidst Terror.”

“With the digital revolution, there’s an amazing amount of production value and quality from these indie filmmakers who are working outside Hollywood,” Kim says.

Amateur filmmakers from around the world submitted their works over the last six months, and Silver Scream will be showing new genre films from the Middle East, Japan, Mexico and South America, as well as a fresh crop of homegrown American horror.

“The beauty of [the festival] is that you get to see cultural horrors,” Kim says. “As much as horror and science fiction transcend boundaries, there are still things specific to a country’s lore that may not necessarily frighten you or me, but it frightens that culture. And when it is done well, it is scary.”

Aside from films, Kim’s obsession with comic books is as strong as ever, and he is finally getting the chance to help create them through his American Gothic Press, established last year. With Kim’s guidance, the comics coming out of American Gothic are a supernatural mix of classic monsters and original storytelling that boasts talents like writer Steve Niles (30 Days of Night).

“We go to a lot of comic conventions, and the one thing we always notice is that there’s not a lot of conversation about how the business works, about how to get your creative stuff published and what steps need to be taken to compete in the marketplace,” Kim says.

With that in mind, Silver Scream will be offering panels and discussions with comic-book creators and artists including Darick Robertson. A Bay Area native now living in Napa, Robertson co-created the landmark indie comic book series Transmetropolitan with Warren Ellis, and has worked for Marvel, DC, Vertigo and others.

“He is going to become a very important name in the coming years,” Kim says. “His own story about how he got started is pretty astounding. I think it will be hugely valuable for anybody who wants to create comics or screenplays.”

Along with film awards, the festival will be judging and presenting awards to amateur comic book artists and writers, and the winner of the award for best comic book will get his or her work published in American Gothic Press.

Both Kim and Pearlmutter hope that Silver Scream evolves into a destination event for those in and outside of Hollywood.

“The idea is to definitely grow this event to be a film festival that’s open to anything on the odd side of mainstream,” Pearlmutter says. “We want to give people a new reason to visit Sonoma County and we want to bring some fun to the area for those who call Santa Rosa home.”

The Silver Scream Film and Comic Festival scares up a good time Friday, March 4 through Sunday, March 6, at the Roxy Stadium 14 theater, 85 Santa Rosa Ave., Santa Rosa. Single day passes start at $25; weekend packages start at $59. For the full schedule of screenings, visit silverscreamfest.com.

Hero & Zero: A doggone zero

By Nikki Silverstein

Zero: Doggone. Well, in the Golden Gate National Recreation Area (GGNRA), dogs are almost gone. The National Park Service’s latest and likely last proposed rules were announced on Wednesday and place extreme restrictions on our canine pals. In Marin, off-leash dogs would have the run of only one place: A small slice of Rodeo Beach. Leashed dogs would have few options, limited to areas of Stinson Beach, Muir Beach, Homestead Valley, Oakwood Valley, Alta Trail, Rodeo Beach, Rodeo Valley and Fort Baker, all located in Southern and West Marin. What is the GGNRA thinking by corralling Marin’s many mutts into sparse spaces? If (probably when) the new rules come into effect in early 2017, we predict Rodeo Beach will be deluged with dogs and soon environmentalists will squawk, rightly so, about the disruption to our bird population.

We envision the leashed areas monopolized by commercial dog walkers, which will incite regular folks to complain about the loss of their neighborhood recreation spots. Perhaps that’s been the intent all along; take baby steps to rid the GGNRA of all dogs. What’s next on their elimination agenda? Biking, surfing, horseback riding? “This federal bureaucracy is imposing its will onto the local community and completely ignoring the needs of the people who live nearby and frequently use these areas—the very reason that the GGNRA was created,” says Andrea Buffa of Save Our Recreation. With a mere 60 days to comment, we urge Marinites to review the proposed rules at federalregister.gov/public-inspection and voice your opinions.

Free Will Astrology

By Rob Brezsny

ARIES (March 21-April 19): Just one species has a big enough throat to swallow a person whole: The sperm whale. If you happen to be sailing the high seas any time soon, I hope you will studiously avoid getting thrown overboard in the vicinity of one of these beasts. The odds are higher than usual that you’d end up in its belly, much like the Biblical character Jonah. (Although, like him, I bet you’d ultimately escape.) Furthermore, Aries, I hope you will be cautious not to get swallowed up by anything else. It’s true that the coming weeks will be a good time to go on a retreat, to flee from the grind and take a break from the usual frenzy. But the best way to do that is to consciously choose the right circumstances rather than leave it to chance.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You have cosmic clearance to fantasize about participating in orgies where you’re loose and free and exuberant. It’s probably not a good idea to attend a literal orgy, however. For the foreseeable future, all the cleansing revelry and cathartic rapture you need can be obtained through the wild stories and outrageous scenes that unfold in your imagination. Giving yourself the gift of pretend immersions in fertile chaos could recharge your spiritual batteries in just the right ways.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): “Hell is the suffering of being unable to love,” wrote novelist J. D. Salinger. If that’s true, I’m pleased to announce that you can now ensure you’ll be free of hell for a very long time. The cosmic omens suggest that you have enormous power to expand your capacity for love. So get busy! Make it your intention to dissolve any unconscious blocks you might have about sharing your gifts and bestowing your blessings. Get rid of attitudes and behaviors that limit your generosity and compassion. Now is an excellent time to launch your “Perpetual Freedom from Hell” campaign!

CANCER (June 21-July 22): “A vacation is what you take when you can no longer take what you’ve been taking,” said journalist Earl Wilson. Do you fit that description, Cancerian? Probably. I suspect it’s high time to find a polite way to flee your responsibilities, avoid your duties and hide from your burdens. For the foreseeable future, you have a mandate to ignore what fills you with boredom. You have the right to avoid any involvement that makes life too damn complicated. And you have a holy obligation to rethink your relationship with any influence that weighs you down with menial obligations.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): “Your illusions are a part of you like your bones and flesh and memory,” writes William Faulkner in his novel Absalom, Absalom! If that’s true, Leo, you now have a chance to be a miracle worker. In the coming weeks, you can summon the uncanny power to rip at least two of your illusions out by the roots—without causing any permanent damage! You may temporarily feel a stinging sensation, but that will be a sign that healing is underway. Congratulations in advance for getting rid of the dead weight.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): “We are defined by the lines we choose to cross or to be confined by,” says Virgo writer A. S. Byatt. That’s a key meditation for you as you enter a phase in which boundaries will be a major theme. During the next eight weeks, you will be continuously challenged to decide which people and things and ideas you want to be part of your world, and which you don’t. In some cases, you’ll be wise to put up barriers and limit connection. In other cases, you’ll thrive by erasing borders and transcending divisions. The hard part—and the fun part—will be knowing which is which. Trust your gut.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): When life gives you lemon juice from concentrate, citric acid, high-fructose corn syrup, modified cornstarch, potassium citrate, yellow food dye and gum acacia, what should you do? Make lemonade, of course! You might wish that all of the raw ingredients life sends your way would be pure and authentic, but sometimes the mix includes artificial stuff. No worries, Libra! I am confident that you have the imaginative chutzpah and resilient willpower necessary to turn the mishmash into passable nourishment. Or here’s another alternative: You could procrastinate for two weeks, when more of the available resources will be natural.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Your Mythic Metaphor for the coming weeks is dew. Many cultures have regarded it as a symbol of life-giving grace. In Kabbalah, divine dew seeps from the Tree of Life. In Chinese folklore, the lunar dew purifies vision and nurtures longevity. In the lore of ancient Greece, dew confers fertility. The Iroquois speak of the Great Dew Eagle, who drops healing moisture on land ravaged by evil spirits. The creator god of the Ashanti people created dew soon after making the sun, moon and stars. Lao Tsu said it’s an emblem of the harmonious marriage between Earth and Heaven. So what will you do with the magic dew that you’ll be blessed with?

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): It’s prime time for you to love your memory, make vivid use of your memory and enhance your memory. Here are some hints about how: 1. Feel appreciation for the way the old stories of your life form the core of your identity and self-image. 2. Draw on your recollections of the past to guide you in making decisions about the imminent future. 3. Notice everything you see with an intensified focus, because then you will remember it better, and that will come in handy quite soon. 4. Make up new memories that you wish had happened. Have fun creating scenes from an imagined past.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Most of us know about Albert Einstein’s greatest idea: The general theory of relativity. It was one of the reasons he won a Nobel Prize in Physics. But what was his second-best discovery? Here’s what he said it was: Adding an egg to the pot while he cooked his soup. That way, he could produce a soft-boiled egg without having to dirty a second pot. What are the first- and second-most fabulous ideas you’ve ever come up with, Capricorn? I suspect that you are on the verge of producing new candidates to compete with them. If it’s OK with you, I will, at least temporarily, refer to you as a genius.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): You may be familiar with the iconic children’s book Where the Wild Things Are. It’s about a boy named Max who takes a dream-like journey from his bedroom to an exotic island, where he becomes king of the weird beasts who live there. Author Maurice Sendak’s original title for the tale was Where the Wild Horses Are. But when his editor realized how inept Sendak was at drawing horses, she instructed him to come up with a title to match the kinds of creatures he could draw skillfully. That was a good idea. The book has sold more than 19 million copies. I think you may need to deal with a comparable issue, Aquarius. It’s wise to acknowledge one of your limitations, and then capitalize on the adjustments you’ve got to make.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): “People don’t want their lives fixed,” proclaims Chuck Palahniuk in his novel Survivor. “Nobody wants their problems solved. Their dramas. Their distractions. Their stories resolved. Their messes cleaned up. Because what would they have left? Just the big scary unknown.” Your challenge in the coming weeks, Pisces, is to prove Palahniuk wrong, at least in regard to you. From what I can tell, you will have unprecedented opportunities to solve dilemmas and clean up messy situations. And if you take even partial advantage of this gift, you will not be plunged into the big scary unknown, but rather into a new phase of shaping your identity with crispness and clarity.

Homework: What book do you suspect would change your life if you actually read it? Testify at Tr**********@gm***.com.

Advice Goddess

By Amy Alkon

Q: I’m in my first serious relationship. It started off super hot and sexual. Now, a year in, it’s lovey-dovey and cuddly. Not that my boyfriend and I don’t have sex. We do, and it’s still good. But we no longer sext or send cute selfies, and the butterflies feeling is gone. Is it all downhill from here?—Worried

A: Once you’ve been together for a while, you may still have vivid fantasies running through your head during sex, like the one where you get to the dry cleaner’s before closing time.

The Declaration of Independence proclaimed that we have a right to “the pursuit of Happiness,” but it doesn’t get into actually having it, which, as you’ve discovered, can be a bit of a bore. This makes biological sense, considering that there are stages in attraction and bonding and a cocktail of biochemicals behind each. Dopamine, a neurochemical that researchers associate with wanting, “novelty-seeking,” and focused attention, is a star player when you’re in chase mode (aka “infatuation,” “attraction,” or, more descriptively, “Who knew you could get a callus down there?”).

However, evolution is no fool, and it realized that we couldn’t spend all of our time chasing each other around whatever passed for the kitchen table back when “the man cave” was an actual cave. So bonding hormones—oxytocin and vasopressin—eventually take charge. And that’s why, a year into a relationship, you may be doing “unnatural acts” in the bedroom, but they probably involve things like dusting the miniblinds.

Going from hot sexts to ho-humming along is a result of “hedonic adaptation.” “Hedonic” comes from a Greek word for pleasure, and hedonic adaptation describes how we quickly acclimate to changes in our circumstances—positive or negative—to the point where they no longer give us the boost (or kick in the teeth) that they first did. Research by social psychologist Philip Brickman and his colleagues suggests that we each have a happiness “set point,” and we keep getting pulled back to it. A fascinating example of this is their finding that people who won big in the lottery were (of course) stoked at first, but ultimately, they ended up being no happier than victims of crippling accidents.

Happiness researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky finds that people in relationships can resist hedonic adaptation, but it takes “ongoing effort” to bring in variety. She’s talking about varied experiences and, especially, varied surprising experiences. Surprise, Lyubomirsky explains in The Myths of Happiness, delivers “strong emotional reactions.” Remember strong emotional reactions? They’re a little hard to come by once you can close your eyes and draw a solar system of your beloved’s every birthmark, freckle and mole.

The good news is that, even now, you can bring surprise into your relationship; you just need to stage it. Try to inject it into every day, and maybe take turns planning a weekly secret date night—secret from the person who isn’t the planner—so at least one of you is surprised. You might also take turns planning separate sextracurricular activities, on the same model. Without this extra effort, sex may still be fun, but the only way it’s likely to be surprising is if one of you tries to sneak out the window afterward.

Q: When I was in my youth, a lot of women I knew fell for bad boys. I’m now a man in my 60s, entering retirement. Amazingly, I’m finding that even women my age prefer bad boys. What’s this about?—Nice Guy

A: Since older women often end up dating much older men, this leads to the question, what’s the profile of the elderly bad boy? Cheating at bingo? Swearing on the golf course? Shotgunning Ensure?

Some older women—just like the younger ones—go for bad boys because they don’t think much of themselves and feel most comfortable with someone who seems to share their view. But even older women who aren’t emotional shipwrecks can be drawn to the aging delinquent. It turns out that a bad boy’s unreliability has a neurological upside. Neuroscientist Wolfram Schultz finds that unpredictable “rewards” seem to be the most satisfying for the brain—maybe even giving us three or four times the buzz of the experiences that we see coming.

So, as a nice guy, the thing to be is exciting and unpredictable—without the downside of the deviousness, thieving and unreliability. Use the element of surprise—even by hiding small presents (tiny chocolate bars) or funny notes around her house (as opposed to a bag of unmarked bills). Ultimately, even thrill-seeking women prefer a man who says, “Quick, grab your suitcase. I’m taking you to Paris,” and not, “Quick, duck down. The cops are here, and they have a warrant.”

This week in the Pacific Sun

This week in the Pacific Sun, you’ll find our cover story, ‘On the run,’ about the state of salmon in California. On top of that, we’ve got a Q & A with State Senate candidate Mariko Yamada, a piece on drinkable condiments, Richard von Busack’s Oscar picks, a story about drummer Barbara Borden (subject of a film by Emmy Award-winning filmmaker David L. Brown) and an interview with Lukas Nelson, son of Willie Nelson. All that and more on stands and online today!

Film: Bear market

By Richard von Busack

As “Round Robin” McAllister, critic of the Saskatoon Muskeg put it, “It’s time once again for that gilded, gelded, gelid statue to make his annual sashay.” The old Saskatchewanian is right, as usual.

The 88th Oscars are to be presented on February 28. It’s Superbowl Sunday for moviegoers, a time to scream at the fumbles. Protesters are countering the gleaming whiteness of the nominations, a subject we can trust that co-producer Reginald Hudlin and host Chris Rock will address.

Generally, the safest way to handicap the awards is to guess the tastes of the longest-lived voters. Rita Moreno won what is always the most interesting category, Best Supporting Actress (West Side Story), back in 1961. Her favorite film of 2015? “I was absolutely nuts about Mad Max: Fury Road,” she told me. “It’s one of the most imaginative movies I’ve ever seen, so creative and spectacular.”

Fury Road was directed by George Miller, in his 70s and still making movies that 20-year-olds rave about. I’d bet the Oscar pool on Miller over the favorite Alejandro Iñárritu, just as I’d put it on Leonardo DiCaprio to win Best Actor for battling that furious bear and eating trout sushi in The Revenant.

Adam McKay’s The Big Short was a triumph of tone, and a perfect reflection of populist outrage; it would have been my choice, even over Spotlight.

But I’m baffled by The Revenant juggernaut. Best movie of the year? It was a satisfying Western—a consolation prize when The Hateful Eight turned out to be so claustrophobic.

Mark Rylance ought to win for Bridge of Spies, but Stallone for Creed is the sentimental favorite. Seeing him makes the Academy feel young and relevant.

Jennifer Jason Leigh had the most screentime and endured the most punishment in The Hateful Eight. She’s the natural for Best Supporting Actress. Kate Winslet won the British Oscar, the BAFTA, for putting up with Michael Fassbender’s Steve Jobs, a potential dark horse win here. Less likely: Rooney Mara in Carol as Therese Belivet. Rachel McAdams had her career best in Spotlight, and deserved the nod. Since Alicia Vikander should win an Oscar for Ex Machina, her nomination in the stale Danish Girl is some sort of thrown bone.

My night will be made if Don Hertzfeldt’s World of Tomorrow wins best animated short, if Saoirse Ronan wins Best Actress for Brooklyn, or if Ennio Morricone gets a Lifetime Achievement award for The Hateful Eight.

Even if all of that fails, we can expect the usual diversions. Cruel glamazons herding noble thespians as if they were goats. The gaffes. The bizarre frocks. And a refreshing snivel during the “Parade of the Dead” sequence.

Music: Musical gift

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By Jamie Soja

Lukas Nelson, talented singer, songwriter and guitarist, has been frequenting the Bay Area for years—with and without his father, the legendary Willie Nelson. For the past few years, Lukas, 27, has performed at the annual Music Heals International (MHI) benefit at Sweetwater Music Hall. On Monday, February 29, he’ll join fellow musicians to support the cause, with a benefit show at the Mill Valley venue.

Sara Wasserman, founder and executive director of Music Heals International, spearheads the mission to give the opportunity of learning music to Haitian children at four schools in Port-au-Prince. Each week, the children are provided with four hours of music lessons, along with access to a variety of musical instruments. Lukas and Wasserman have been working together for years, and Lukas has seen firsthand how music is helping kids in need.

“There were 70,000 refugees living in boxes, basically, and they were trying to move a bunch of people into this assisted living housing facility back when we were there,” Lukas says of a trip that he took to Haiti. “We had a tiny little place. It was just this little building and we turned it into a community center, and we taught music there. Sara basically helped start this school. Now they’ve got a bunch of instruments and they’ve got a whole school going there; it’s a music school. All those kids are going there and learning music. It’s great, really cool!”

Last year, Lukas performed at an MHI benefit show with surprise guest Bob Weir of the Grateful Dead. The collaboration between the two musicians started, Lukas says, after he played with Weir at Weir’s San Rafael-based TRI Studios.

“We did a little Jerry Garcia tribute and had some jamming fun,” Lukas says. “Bob and I became really good friends and still are. Now we are writing together, John Barlow, him and myself.”

For Lukas, touring and performing has often been a family affair. His brother Micah is part of his main project, Lukas Nelson & Promise of the Real—a “cowboy hippie surf rock” band. At a young age, Lukas toured with his father, and he’s performed with Neil Young, who recently recorded backup vocals for a track on his soon-to-be-released album, Something Real.

“I do as much as I can with Dad when I can, you know,” Lukas says. “It’s a matter of logistics. I play with Neil, and then I play with my band, and when I’m not busy I’ll go fly out and see Dad wherever he’s at and play with him … that kind of thing.”

Lukas met Neil Young through Farm Aid. “We never really spoke much and then Neil started hearing my band and then we became his band,” Lukas says. “We definitely complement each other, musically, a lot. We hear ear to ear, we see ear to ear.”

Lukas Nelson, The Grateful Bluegrass Boys, Greg Loiacono (of The Mother Hips), Jason Crosby & Elliott Peck, Grahame Lesh, The MHI All-Stars and very special surprise guests; A benefit for Music Heals International; Monday, February 29, 8pm; $37-$62; Sweetwater Music Hall, 19 Corte Madera Ave., Mill Valley; sweetwatermusichall.com.

Theater: Golden age

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By Charles Brousse

For local playwrights, working theater artists who place a high value on creativity and audiences with a taste for adventure, this is a golden age. During my 26 years of Bay Area reviewing, I’ve never seen so many productions of brand new plays and musicals as we’re having right now. Companies large and small, professional and community-based, have script development programs that lead to public showings.

Last week brought an interesting pair of new arrivals.

Arches, Balance and Light, by Mary Spletter (Ross Valley Players): The most important thing that you should know going into this is that although Spletter’s subject is the astoundingly prolific Bay Area-based architect, Julia Morgan, most of the details about her personal life are based on speculation for dramatic purposes rather than verified historical fact. When declining to be interviewed she liked to say, “My buildings speak for me.”

And, indeed they do—more than 700 of them, most located in San Francisco and adjacent counties (including Marin), others further away—all distinguished by their emphasis on “arches, balance and light.” These include the famous Hearst Castle at San Simeon, Asilomar Conference Grounds, Berkeley City Club, Sausalito Woman’s Club, various structures on the UC Berkeley and Mills College campuses, a number of YWCAs and private dwellings of all kinds.

Morgan delighted feminists with her prodigious collection of “firsts:” The first woman to be admitted to and graduate from the UC Berkeley School of Civil Engineering; first to be admitted to and graduate from the architectural design program at the École nationale supérieure des Beaux-Arts in Paris; first to be granted a California license to practice architecture; first to establish a clientele that matched or exceeded male colleagues; first to be honored by them for her lifetime achievement.

That’s an impressive list, but it’s pretty sterile dramatic material. Confronted with a carefully maintained blank personal record, Spletter fills in the gaps with an invented story of what might have happened, complete with spicy sexual intrigue and a suspenseful ending. It’s a technique that many playwrights—Tom Stoppard and Caryl Churchill, among the moderns—have used to their advantage, and it mostly works here.

The splendid cast of RVP includes Ellen Brooks as Julia in her later years; Zoe Swenson-Graham, a last-minute replacement, is young Julia; Anastasia Bonaccorso is Marguerite, who may (or may not) be Julia’s daughter; Robin Schild is Victor, her mentor/lover during the Beaux-Arts days; and John Simpson appears in a variety of supporting roles. Jay Manley, well-known locally for his work with the Mountain Play, directs with a sure hand.

It remains to be said that RVP has its own “first” to celebrate with this inclusion of a company-developed play in the regular season. Even if the run is only three weeks instead of the usual four or five, Arches, Balance and Light is a promising beginning.

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The Unfortunates, a cooperative theater project jointly created by Jon Beavers, Kristoffer Diaz, Casey Lee Hurt, Ian Merrigan and Ramiz Monsef; directed by Shana Cooper (A.C.T.): You probably don’t have to be under 40 to

Eddie Lopez, offering up a game of chance, plays Koko in A.C.T.’s production of ‘The Unfortunates’ at the Strand Theater. Photo by Kevin Berne.
Eddie Lopez, offering up a game of chance, plays Koko in A.C.T.’s production of ‘The Unfortunates’ at the Strand Theater. Photo by Kevin Berne.

fully appreciate this confusing mashup of musical, literary and philosophical strands in contemporary Western culture, but I guarantee that it will be a big help.

Structurally, A.C.T.’s latest offering at its gleaming new Strand Theater on Market Street is a play with music along the lines of Bertolt Brecht’s Threepenny Opera. From program notes that I regrettably read after the performance, the youthful creative group explains that the narrative closely follows the 12-stage “monomyth” of Joseph Campbell’s “hero’s journey” as their protagonist, Big Joe (Ian Merrigan), evolves from a clueless gung-ho patriot to a committed anti-war crusader with a social conscience. That was certainly important to know, but I doubt that many in the equally youthful audience were aware, either. Or cared.

It’s the music that counts—driving rock, blues and gospel rhythms played by an onstage band—that for those of the right age combines with rap-inspired dialogue, dancing and song to draw The Unfortunates’ disparate elements together. They “get it” instinctively. We non-qualifiers just have to work a little harder.

NOW PLAYING: Arches, Balance and Light runs through March 6 at the Ross Valley Players’ Barn Theater, Marin Art and Garden Center, Ross; 415/456-9555; rossvalleyplayers.com. The Unfortunates runs through April 10 at A.C.T.’s Strand Theater, 1127 Market St., San Francisco; 415/749-2228; act-sf.org.

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